Emotional Support

[Lady_Lunevis]

I have just taken a very important exam but today the teacher told us that the exams got lost while on the way to Cambridge.So my exam might be on the middle of the Atlantic Ocean.I feel so sad because I put a lot of effort on it and now I have to repeat it.

//hugs// I'm so sorry this happened, bae. That's unfortunate and they should've been more careful with the exams--those are important!

 

Perhaps they'll be okay? They're probably out looking for the tests--having everyone simply redo them would cause a stir in the community and lesson plans. Let's hope they're found soon! <3

 

In the case you do have to redo do, I'm so sorry this happened. //hugs// Even so, just try your best! That's all anyone's asking. Personal excellence is the most important no matter what!

 

I'm sure you did wonderful on your exam. <3 Fingers crossed that they'll be okay! //hugs//

[lightbird]

lightbird, Your boss strikes my as woefully unprofessional and is blaming you for her failure to plan out your departure better. You said this is an University, so you can't be the first transfer of this sort she's had to deal with. I sincerely hope everything works out well for you and that you get to go on your vacation and get that spot in the research project.

 

//hugs// I'm really sorry you're in this situation, dear. That's unfair of your boss to do such a thing and just...ugh.

 

Is there any way for you to transfer right now? Even if the other person is busy, could you just stop and take up a few minutes to ask?

 

Also, is it a possibility you could stay home this week? If your boss wants you off so the junior can do their work, could you simply just stay home until your vacation?

 

You could also try to reason with your boss--explain to her that you did say you wouldn't be transferring until the project actually started or that you only have a week until your vacation and after that you'll be gone.

 

Thanks for the hugs, guys, the situation has been, at least from my side sorted out. :T

 

As in - my boss was flat-out lying.

I went in the next day and asked Junior Coworker, if she had come back as a senior assistant. She hadn't done any paperwork to become senior assistant (from "just" assistant). She had just e-mailed about which day she should come back on. I asked the bureau manager in our department. She confirmed that Junior was a "just" assistant. I mentioned to her, in as non-accusatory manner as I could, that boss had said some very interesting things the day before and that I was confused about what was going on. I told my coworker who is managing the project thing about this.

 

She told me that this was the time when I finally got to see my boss' true colours - she seems really good, forthcoming etc., until the day when she subtly screws you over, and that she has a penchant for spreading not-very-true information to get you to tell you things, and that likely she was trying to slightly gaslight me into thinking that we had had a definite agreement on my leave date and that I had purposefully ignored it, to get me to write a letter of resignation with a backwards-going date or something.

 

So, I wrote her an e-mail, a polite one, telling her that, since I couldn't meet her on the day after (which is true, she was either gone, or talking to more important coworkers when she was there) and am on vacation now, I'm starting work in the project in August, that all paperwork will be prepared by the project department, so Junior can start work as senior lab assistant on the day when I start in the project, and, if something isn't certain, please refer to the head of the project and development department (who, according to my senior coworker, is a very feisty, no-nonsense person who my boss probably won't want to mess with, since my boss prefers sly fox techniques, as is probably obvious from my posts. Said department director has also confirmed that YES, I may go on vacation and then immediately transfer to a different job position without going back to my old job, as long as paperwork is done on time) and, oh, I've also relayed this information to our department's bureau manager.

 

There, as non-accusatory as I could.

 

And if there will be fallout for this, thanks, socialism and working in a state-owned facility, she can't fire me quickly even if she wished to.

 

(suitable gif for how I feel right now). c:

Edited July 4, 2014 by lightbird

[HorseChick]

//hugs// I'm so sorry this happened, bae. That's unfortunate and they should've been more careful with the exams--those are important!

 

Perhaps they'll be okay? They're probably out looking for the tests--having everyone simply redo them would cause a stir in the community and lesson plans. Let's hope they're found soon! <3

 

In the case you do have to redo do, I'm so sorry this happened. //hugs// Even so, just try your best! That's all anyone's asking. Personal excellence is the most important no matter what!

 

I'm sure you did wonderful on your exam. <3 Fingers crossed that they'll be okay! //hugs//

Thanks for your support.

[Lady_Lunevis]

Thanks for the hugs, guys, the situation has been, at least from my side sorted out. :T

 

As in - my boss was flat-out lying.

I went in the next day and asked Junior Coworker, if she had come back as a senior assistant. She hadn't done any paperwork to become senior assistant (from "just" assistant). She had just e-mailed about which day she should come back on. I asked the bureau manager in our department. She confirmed that Junior was a "just" assistant. I mentioned to her, in as non-accusatory manner as I could, that boss had said some very interesting things the day before and that I was confused about what was going on. I told my coworker who is managing the project thing about this.

 

She told me that this was the time when I finally got to see my boss' true colours - she seems really good, forthcoming etc., until the day when she subtly screws you over, and that she has a penchant for spreading not-very-true information to get you to tell you things, and that likely she was trying to slightly gaslight me into thinking that we had had a definite agreement on my leave date and that I had purposefully ignored it, to get me to write a letter of resignation with a backwards-going date or something.

 

So, I wrote her an e-mail, a polite one, telling her that, since I couldn't meet her on the day after (which is true, she was either gone, or talking to more important coworkers when she was there) and am on vacation now, I'm starting work in the project in August, that all paperwork will be prepared by the project department, so Junior can start work as senior lab assistant on the day when I start in the project, and, if something isn't certain, please refer to the head of the project and development department (who, according to my senior coworker, is a very feisty, no-nonsense person who my boss probably won't want to mess with, since my boss prefers sly fox techniques, as is probably obvious from my posts. Said department director has also confirmed that YES, I may go on vacation and then immediately transfer to a different job position without going back to my old job, as long as paperwork is done on time) and, oh, I've also relayed this information to our department's bureau manager.

 

There, as non-accusatory as I could.

 

And if there will be fallout for this, thanks, socialism and working in a state-owned facility, she can't fire me quickly even if she wished to.

 

(suitable gif for how I feel right now). c:

 

//hugs// That's really good to hear!

 

Urgh, I'm so sorry your boss did such a thing. That's just awful and she probably confused a lot of people--that's not right at all. I'm surprised she hasn't been called out on what she's done yet.

 

Still, I'm really glad to hear that things are okay now, and everything will proceed as planned! You're correct; none of this is your problem. Just let your boss deal with everything from now on--she deserves it, to clean up the mess she's made.

 

Anyway, enjoy your vacation! //hugs// I hope everything goes well, and this new project will be fresh and exciting! <3

 

Thanks for your support.

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Anytime! //hugs// I hope things go smoothly! <3

[Dragonessdown]

My life has fallen apart

 

A year ago, I had a job I loves, was going to collage, life was wonderful. My mom got sick again, so I quit collage to take care of her. I still had my job, and life was still good.

 

About two months ago, I had had a late work meeting end at11, got home at 12. Got up at 4:30 to make it in time to my 6 am shift. I did my job, started home. Dozed off, rear ended a tank suv in my tiny car. Totaled my car, knocked the bumper off of her car. She's now suing me. I had to quit my job, I was not making enough money to pay for another vehicle.

 

I got a job in the delli, I dislike my job, I bust my *** and my coworkers hate me because I try too hard.

 

This week. My mom is doing much worse.... and on top of all of this, I have to put down my dog, my baby. We live on a farm and he has gotten aggressive, and killing things. Shelters will not take him, and he dislikes anyone but me. And my favorite rabbit died, one of my baby show goat died..... just everything...

[Lady_Lunevis]

My life has fallen apart

 

A year ago, I had a job I loves, was going to collage, life was wonderful. My mom got sick again, so I quit collage to take care of her. I still had my job, and life was still good.

 

About two months ago, I had had a late work meeting end at11, got home at 12. Got up at 4:30 to make it in time to my 6 am shift. I did my job, started home. Dozed off, rear ended a tank suv in my tiny car. Totaled my car, knocked the bumper off of her car. She's now suing me. I had to quit my job, I was not making enough money to pay for another vehicle.

 

I got a job in the delli, I dislike my job, I bust my *** and my coworkers hate me because I try too hard.

 

This week. My mom is doing much worse.... and on top of all of this, I have to put down my dog, my baby. We live on a farm and he has gotten aggressive, and killing things. Shelters will not take him, and he dislikes anyone but me. And my favorite rabbit died, one of my baby show goat died..... just everything...

//hugs// Oh my god, I'm so sorry

 

That's so awful to hear, I'm so sorry...I wish there was a way to help...

I really hope your mother gets better soon! Keep hoping, maybe she'll make a fast recovery.

Animals are truly precious and I'm really sorry for everything you lost--but they had good times with you when they were still here. I really hope you had some good memories. <3

 

I'm sorry--there's not much I can say in this situation, but thank you. Despite everything that's happened you're still trying so hard and staying so strong--that's inspirational to hear. <3

 

I really hope things get better soon. You're a really good person--and I do believe good things happen to good people. In the meantime, please take care of yourself! I hope the future will be better. <3 Best wishes! //hugs//

[Dragonessdown]

Thank you... I don't have a choice, I have to keep going. Mom needs me. The doctors say she will just get worse, she will be paralyzed, I just hope I have most of the house fixed by then. Oh and I havens been sleeping well. Or eating, but I do work around food

[MedievalMystic]

My life has fallen apart

 

A year ago, I had a job I loves, was going to collage, life was wonderful. My mom got sick again, so I quit collage to take care of her. I still had my job, and life was still good.

 

About two months ago, I had had a late work meeting end at11, got home at 12. Got up at 4:30 to make it in time to my 6 am shift. I did my job, started home. Dozed off, rear ended a censorkip.gif tank suv in my tiny car. Totaled my car, knocked the bumper off of her car. She's now suing me. I had to quit my job, I was not making enough money to pay for another vehicle.

 

I got a job in the delli, I dislike my job, I bust my *** and my coworkers hate me because I try too hard.

 

This week. My mom is doing much worse.... and on top of all of this, I have to put down my dog, my baby. We live on a farm and he has gotten aggressive, and killing things. Shelters will not take him, and he dislikes anyone but me. And my favorite rabbit died, one of my baby show goat died..... just everything...

 

I understand exactly where you are. I was there myself. I had a great job that I loved, my little house, my friends, social life, freedom, money, my dog, my fish tanks that were my hobby, etc, and life was good. Until my mom started calling and asking me to move in with her. I resisted for a year. Then I caved and moved in to help her as she was 40 years older than me and couldn't do a lot of the things she used to. A couple years later she dropped the bomb that she had alzheimers. I literally heard the bars of the cage clang around me with that announcement. I'm an only child, she had no one else and I lost everything. My mom's care and these 4 walls became my world for 12 long years. How I remained sane is beyond my comprehension. Every night I'd pray to God that he give me just one more drop...a half a drop...of whatever it was that kept me going.

 

One thing you must do, just in case your mom never gets better...get her to give you power of attorney. She MUST if she hasn't already. Without it, you could face major problems. My mom refused to give anyone POA. She was always a control freak and wasn't about to give anyone squat. That became a problem because soon she lost the use of her right hand due to a stroke and couldn't write anymore. She asked me to start writing out the bills. I informed her that she was asking me to commit forgery since I had no legal right to do that. She didn't care. I broke the law and paid the bills, forging her name every month for years. What was the option? Sit in the dark? By the time I really needed a POA, she couldn't legally give permission, she was too far gone and what a freaking mess she put me in. If your mom becomes too much to handle...and that very well could happen...there's no way for you to legally put her into any care facility, even for a temporary break or make medical decisions for her if it ever comes to that.

 

There's a great site, AgingCare.com that might help you. It's a site for care givers. There's a lot of emotional and mental strain in being someone's caregiver, especially if you're having to do it 24/7 around the clock like I did. And sad to say, it could come to that. This is a wonderful group of people and if you want to rant and shriek and scream and cry, we're the ones over there that really GET it. Thank God for those wonderful people. I'd have cracked like an egg without them. It was such a huge relief to know that there were others out there in my situation, that had lost everything, that knew what I was dealing with and that just got and understood that hideous roller coaster of emotion that I was on. Grief, sadness, anger, resentment, so much sorrow in having to watch the Alzheimers process...if you need a hand up, the people at AgingCare are the ones to give it like nobody else.

 

If your mom's care becomes a full time job, and it might, you need to have a support system in place NOW. I didn't realize what I was getting into with my mom and if I would have, I would have done things a whole lot different. Make sure you have support, other people that can and will come in to give you a break. I didn't have anyone. For years I didn't even realize that certain types of help were available until I got onto the AgingCare site. If your mom keeps getting worse and needs more and more assistance, it's going to drain the life right out of you. You're going to need people on stand by to give you breaks. And if it becomes a round the clock kind of thing, you WILL need those breaks and time away. The time to put that support system in place is NOW. I didn't know all the options available for so long. I have an abnormality in my heart now, the doc says from years of extreme, unrelenting pressure, stress and anxiety. Being the care taker to another human being, especially one that needs help doing everything from eating to dressing to toileting is no joke. That kind of stress can kill you. It's a known fact that 30% of care takers die before their charges from stress.

 

I understand about the animals, too. I'm now having to contemplate putting my mom's 18 year old dog down. It's agonizing.

 

As for work, piss on the haters. Keep doing what you're doing. You have a great work ethic. Don't ever lower your standards, especially not for those idiots.

 

Hang in there. Get a POA. Get a support system in place now. Go on AgingCare and research your options if you find you need help. And best of luck. <3

 

The AgingCare link..

 

http://www.agingcare.com

Edited July 6, 2014 by MedievalMystic

[Dragonessdown]

Thank you Mystic, I will do that. My mom has nerve damage, and she is slowly being paralyzed.... I gotta go dig a hole now, have to put my dog down today... he just had his first birthday....

[MedievalMystic]

Thank you Mystic, I will do that. My mom has nerve damage, and she is slowly being paralyzed.... I gotta go dig a hole now, have to put my dog down today... he just had his first birthday....

 

I'm sorry, Dragon. I know first hand how difficult your road really is.

 

Understand this much. You have to look out for yourself as much as you look out for your mom. If you allow the care giver role to overwhelm you and consume you...and it can and will...it will literally make you sick. Arm yourself with knowledge about all your options for help, and get a support system in place asap. I can't stress that enough. And please, do check out the AgingCare site. The information, help and support you'll get is priceless. The best of luck, Dragon. *squish!*

[urusta]

@Dragonesschadow: I have really high respect for what you are doing. What you do is amazing, never doubt that! I wish you all the best! *hugs*

@MedievalMystic: You too and it very kind of you to give such good advice.

I do not know how far the system is in your country, but maybe you can get help from a hospice (I think that is the right term) They are there to help and support.

 

At the moment I suffer from serious homesickness. I am spending a semester abroad and I know no one here and currently it is vacation time here (GB) so there are not that many students around. I am very shy and quite, so I have trouble meeting people. Plus: My supervisor is away for two weeks (I just on Tuesday arrived) and I feel a bit left alone, I do not really know what I should do in the lab tomorrow. But I am supposed to start my labwork, but I have no idea to whom to speak and where to go... I have been suffering from depression for a long time, I am a bit afraid of slipping. I already checked where to go here, but it makes me feel weird and I start to cry.

This week has been really messed up. Everything that could go wrong went wrong. Starting with a cold, train late, plane late, the person I should contact to get the key to my apartment is not available, my room is in the fourth floor facing to the street, the parcel with bedding I ordered has not arrived, so I have to go an buy some, I have trouble sleeping, because of the noise, I get am inflammation in my ear so my left ear goes deaf. I just want to cry, but I try to keep myself from crying. I miss my family, my dog, my chickens, everything.

[MedievalMystic]

At the moment I suffer from serious homesickness. I am spending a semester abroad and I know no one here and currently it is vacation time here (GB) so there are not that many students around. I am very shy and quite, so I have trouble meeting people. Plus: My supervisor is away for two weeks (I just on Tuesday arrived) and I feel a bit left alone, I do not really know what I should do in the lab tomorrow. But I am supposed to start my labwork, but I have no idea to whom to speak and where to go... I have been suffering from depression for a long time, I am a bit afraid of slipping. I already checked where to go here, but it makes me feel weird and I start to cry.

This week has been really messed up. Everything that could go wrong went wrong. Starting with a cold, train late, plane late, the person I should contact to get the key to my apartment is not available, my room is in the fourth floor facing to the street, the parcel with bedding I ordered has not arrived, so I have to go an buy some, I have trouble sleeping, because of the noise, I get am inflammation in my ear so my left ear goes deaf. I just want to cry, but I try to keep myself from crying. I miss my family, my dog, my chickens, everything.

 

I'm sorry, Urusta. Kudos for going abroad, to a strange place, by yourself. That must have taken some courage for someone who's shy and on the quite side.

 

What bothers me about your post is that supervisor. I mean, really? He/she has students coming abroad and he takes off? And that's it? No phone number to contact them? No replacement to help students abroad? What kind of jacked up system is that? That just feels really wrong to me and if I were you, I'd be a tad angry to be left dangling in the wind. Isn't there an office at the school where you can go and talk to someone about this and find someone else to help you? You need to talk to someone in authority at that school and let them know your situation. Imo, what's happened is unacceptable. Talk to someone in the lab and ask some questions. Maybe they can steer you in the right direction. I certainly hope so!

 

And the same with this person with the apartment key? O_o I assume you CAN get into the apartment? Can you use ear plugs? Do you have facebook, skype? Can you contact your family that way?

 

Just keep telling yourself, 'It's only one semester, it's only one semester'. Hopefully, if you speak to someone about what's happened, they can put you in touch with another supervisor who can help make this experience go a little smoother for you and help you if you need it. It's a bumpy start, but here's hoping that in the days and weeks to come you'll actually start to enjoy the experience. Hopefully, you'll meet at least one or two people at the lab that will take you under their wing and become new friends.

 

We learn something from every obstacle put in front of us and get stronger for it. Chalk this up to yet another learning experience and pat yourself on the back for having the guts and strength to endure and not break down. You'll be alright.

 

Let us know how it goes.

[skiddajane]

I must say, this forum is full of wonderful, encouraging, and loving people. I have read this entire thread, and found nothing but love radiating out from all these posts. Seeing this thread really makes me happy inside because it means that there really are a lot of good people out there. While I myself, have not been having any problems in my life that are TOO bad recently, I am more than willing to help out anyone who wants to talk. I've been told that I give great advice. I think a lot of that is because I just love you all! No one deserves to feel sad, or worthless in any way. You are all amazing people- don't you doubt it!! For EVERYONE who reads this post, please know that I am directly talking to you. You are special, and wonderful. I'm totally accepting of pm's, and I will always have time for you. I'm on pretty much every day, and am rarely doing anything of actual importance, so you don't have to worry about bugging me Daw, I just love this thread.

[Lady_Lunevis]

Thank you... I don't have a choice, I have to keep going. Mom needs me. The doctors say she will just get worse, she will be paralyzed, I just hope I have most of the house fixed by then. Oh and I havens been sleeping well. Or eating, but I do work around food sleep.gif

 

//hugs// Anytime <3

Oh geeze, I'm sorry. I really hope things get better--everyone is here for you!

 

At the moment I suffer from serious homesickness. I am spending a semester abroad and I know no one here and currently it is vacation time here (GB) so there are not that many students around. I am very shy and quite, so I have trouble meeting people. Plus: My supervisor is away for two weeks (I just on Tuesday arrived) and I feel a bit left alone, I do not really know what I should do in the lab tomorrow. But I am supposed to start my labwork, but I have no idea to whom to speak and where to go... I have been suffering from depression for a long time, I am a bit afraid of slipping. I already checked where to go here, but it makes me feel weird and I start to cry.

This week has been really messed up. Everything that could go wrong went wrong. Starting with a cold, train late, plane late, the person I should contact to get the key to my apartment is not available, my room is in the fourth floor facing to the street, the parcel with bedding I ordered has not arrived, so I have to go an buy some, I have trouble sleeping, because of the noise, I get am inflammation in my ear so my left ear goes deaf. I just want to cry, but I try to keep myself from crying. I miss my family, my dog, my chickens, everything.

 

//hugs// I'm really sorry to hear this, bae. I hope things get better <3

 

As MM said, it really is amazing of you to go aboard like this! It takes a lot of courage and I'm sure your family is proud. <3

 

Can you possibly call your supervisor, or find someone else who can help?

 

I understand exactly how much being shy and suffering from depression can make you withhold yourself, and be unable to move forward and talk to people. //hugs// However, try to think of it from their perspective! A lot of people are very welcoming and willing to help a newcomer settle in. If you need some help, don't hesitate to ask for it! I know it may be intimidating to have to talk to people you don't know, but usually people are willing to answer simple questions and point you in the right way. Having someone guide you through a bit is easier than suffering on your own--maybe you'll even get to know some people a bit better!

 

Just try to break this down. I know that it can be overwhelming and to think you have to go through an entire semester is frightening, but things really do get easier once you get more used to a routine. Just tell yourself that you'll be okay and that you're doing okay--no one's expecting anything from you but to try your best. It's okay to mess up sometimes--everyone makes mistakes! Just try to familiarize yourself with the place and get to know a few people--your supervisors and professors, perhaps. The more time goes on, you'll start feeling a bit more at ease, little by little.

 

Good luck! <3 Again, congrats on going aboard. //hugs// Skype and Facebook and phone calls are a great way to keep in contact with your family, as MM has suggested. I know this is scary, but it's also a new adventure. You'll see your family soon, but in the meantime just keep staying strong. <3 Have fun with your classes!

 

I must say, this forum is full of wonderful, encouraging, and loving people. I have read this entire thread, and found nothing but love radiating out from all these posts. Seeing this thread really makes me happy inside because it means that there really are a lot of good people out there. While I myself, have not been having any problems in my life that are TOO bad recently, I am more than willing to help out anyone who wants to talk. I've been told that I give great advice. I think a lot of that is because I just love you all! biggrin.gif No one deserves to feel sad, or worthless in any way. You are all amazing people- don't you doubt it!! For EVERYONE who reads this post, please know that I am directly talking to you. You are special, and wonderful. I'm totally accepting of pm's, and I will always have time for you. I'm on pretty much every day, and am rarely doing anything of actual importance, so you don't have to worry about bugging me smile.gif Daw, I just love this thread.

 

I agree! Having a place where users can inspire others and help people going through a tough phrase is amazing. <3 The people on this thread are very diligent and caring, correct!

 

//hugs// I hope the small problems get resolved nonetheless. Thank you for being such a caring person! <3

 

This thread is one of my favourites, yes.

[urusta]

Thank you, both you Lady_Lunevis and MedievalMystic. Thank you for your encouraging words, really, I never saw it that way.

I am keeping contact with my parents via skype. Today I went to the student help point to get an appointment for help. I am a bit afraid.

 

I asked my supervisor via email, if I to work independently and he answered of course, but if I need help I should see John (got that email this morning) Yeah... Never worked in that lab, never did any of the assays I should use. So I am going to take it easy and not really do much. I need to lower my own expectations of myself and my surroundings.

[Lady_Lunevis]

Thank you, both you Lady_Lunevis and MedievalMystic. Thank you for your encouraging words, really, I never saw it that way.

I am keeping contact with my parents via skype. Today I went to the student help point to get an appointment for help. I am a bit afraid.

 

I asked my supervisor via email, if I to work independently and he answered of course, but if I need help I should see John (got that email this morning) Yeah... Never worked in that lab, never did any of the assays I should use. So I am going to take it easy and not really do much. I need to lower my own expectations of myself and my surroundings.

Anytime! <3 //hugs//

 

I'm glad you're still able to talk to your parents. ^^ Don't be afraid of the appointment! The people there are here to help you.

 

Exactly! You're just starting out; just try your best. I'm sure things will be okay in the end ^^ And as your supervisor said, ask John for help if you get stuck!

 

//hugs// Best of luck, dear. I hope you have fun and the semester goes okay!

[Cavedragon49990]

My friend just called my father because I had a loss of control last night and really messed up

 

I'm scared I didn't want him to do this and I don't know what's happening

 

I need a hug because I'm in a total panic and I don't know what to do and I'm really really scared because I told him not to do this and I don't want my friend to call CPS if it gets bad enough because he said if it got to that that would happen and he would call CPS

 

I'm scared so bad right now

[Lady_Lunevis]

My friend just called my father because I had a loss of control last night and really messed up

 

I'm scared I didn't want him to do this and I don't know what's happening

 

I need a hug because I'm in a total panic and I don't know what to do and I'm really really scared because I told him not to do this and I don't want my friend to call CPS if it gets bad enough because he said if it got to that that would happen and he would call CPS

 

I'm scared so bad right now

//hugs tightly// It's going to be okay, dear. Breathe in, breathe out. Talk to me. It'll be okay.

 

Why are you scared? What happened?

Did your friend mean good by calling your father or not?

 

Try talking to your father about it? Let him know your viewpoints on this and if he takes any action that it'll stress you out more than anything.

Oops edits

Why are they calling CPS? What exactly happened?

If your parents are being abusive or neglecting you in any way, CPS may get involved. Are they treating you alright?

 

//hugs// I'm so sorry this happened. Everyone is here to listen, it'll be okay! <3 Just breathe. Try to relax and take deep, soothing breaths. It'll be okay.

Edited July 8, 2014 by Lady_Lunevis

[Cavedragon49990]

//hugs tightly// It's going to be okay, dear. Breathe in, breathe out. Talk to me. It'll be okay.

 

Why are you scared? What happened?

Did your friend mean good by calling your father or not?

 

Try talking to your father about it? Let him know your viewpoints on this and if he takes any action that it'll stress you out more than anything.

Oops edits

Why are they calling CPS? What exactly happened?

If your parents are being abusive or neglecting you in any way, CPS may get involved. Are they treating you alright?

 

//hugs// I'm so sorry this happened. Everyone is here to listen, it'll be okay! <3 Just breathe. Try to relax and take deep, soothing breaths. It'll be okay.

I lost control last night and let's just say I will have a ton of scars and my friend got caught on the receiving end of my panic and crazy mood

 

He means good because he knows how bad my parents are when it comes to support but I didn't want him to do it and I'm scared my dad will yell at me

 

They're talking on the phone right now and my dad has his door shut but I eavesdropped a bit and I know it was my friend who called and that they're talking about me

 

My friend would call CPS because he has this hatred for my parents and how they don't really help me, and that I haven't had proper communication with them for a long time because of how bad things have gotten. They aren't abusive so to speak but one of my friends thinks it's neglect and I don't know if it is or not

 

I'm just scared!!!

[Lady_Lunevis]

I lost control last night and let's just say I will have a ton of scars and my friend got caught on the receiving end of my panic and crazy mood

 

He means good because he knows how bad my parents are when it comes to support but I didn't want him to do it and I'm scared my dad will yell at me

 

They're talking on the phone right now and my dad has his door shut but I eavesdropped a bit and I know it was my friend who called and that they're talking about me

 

My friend would call CPS because he has this hatred for my parents and how they don't really help me, and that I haven't had proper communication with them for a long time because of how bad things have gotten. They aren't abusive so to speak but one of my friends thinks it's neglect and I don't know if it is or not

 

I'm just scared!!!

//hugs again//

 

Would you mind if I took this to private chat? I have some words I'd like to say but to leave them for the general public to see is a bit of an intrusion on privacy.

[Cavedragon49990]

//hugs again//

 

Would you mind if I took this to private chat? I have some words I'd like to say but to leave them for the general public to see is a bit of an intrusion on privacy.

Please do!

[YanaAlYanas]

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship online for seven years. Does my problem count? Turns out he wanted to come to Canada more then anything.

[Lady_Lunevis]

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship online for seven years. Does my problem count? Turns out he wanted to come to Canada more then anything.

Yes, your problem counts. Anything that causes distress is horrible and I'm sorry you had to go through that! //hugs//

 

Emotionally abusive relationships are awful. Have you and him broken up?

Well, if he's emotionally abusing you it's better to get away from him as soon as possible. Do you live in Canada?

 

Stay strong <3 I hope things are okay!

[Dragonessdown]

My dog is dead... I buried him by myself yesterday... I can't sleep. Hes gone! My baby is gone.

[Lady_Lunevis]

My dog is dead... I buried him by myself yesterday... I can't sleep. Hes gone! My baby is gone.

//hugs tightly// Aw, bae, I'm so sorry. He had a good life and was very happy with you! <3

 

I'm really sorry you had to do this. You two had many good memories together--treasure those. Maybe he's gone, but your memories remain. It'll be okay.

 

My condolences. //hugs// <3