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@bluesonic1: smile.gif That is the sweetest thing I've read regarding this. Thank you so much for your encouragement! That is very inspiring!

 

smile.gif I suppose you are right, and that I just have to keep on doing my job well, and to be an inspiration to others.

 

I can't stop smiling at your words.

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I've been struggling with my depression this past week, and now is *really* not a good time. I've been fairly stable for a good six months or so, but this past week I've felt myself falling, I've been crying a lot and just so unmotivated and down. May 31st - June 3rd I'm going on vacation for my birthday, we've been saving money for months for this, so I *can't* be dealing with depression then. I just... Feel so helpless right now.

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I've been struggling with my depression this past week, and now is *really* not a good time. I've been fairly stable for a good six months or so, but this past week I've felt myself falling, I've been crying a lot and just so unmotivated and down. May 31st - June 3rd I'm going on vacation for my birthday, we've been saving money for months for this, so I *can't* be dealing with depression then. I just... Feel so helpless right now.

Just hang in there, okay? I know it's really hard and sometimes it's easier to give in than others, but you can push through it. Depression will do its best, but you are stronger than it, no matter how bleak it may seem. Maybe look for a way to keep your mind busy so that your thoughts can't wander, like reading or listening to music. I really hope that you find something that works for you and can enjoy your birthday trip.

 

i need a hug

 

i haven't stopped crying since this afternoon

*Hugs* If you ever need someone to talk to, I would be more than happy to help in any way I can. Just send me a PM.

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What are you even mad about.

You told me to tell you no when I want to. Literally told me to. So if youre mad about something you 100% knew I would say no to, and then I did say no, and youre mad about that. No. You dont get to be angry about that.

That is censorkip.gif childish and it makes me beyond angry.

 

Everything was obviously a joke. One you instigated. You do not. Get to be angry. At me for that.

So either man up and respond to the flapjacking text, or I am going to play your own game and start ignoring you.

 

This compounding on my being stressed, my depression kicking back in to full swing, and other dumb things means that I am now wound tight enough the fact I can't find my sweatshirt has me wanting to smash things to tiny pieces.

I hate being irrationally angry.

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I'm not so sure getting angry at people who are acting unreasonable is necessarily is irrational. As far as I'm concerned, it's a normal human response. As for your depression, I hope you feel better soon. Doing something to keep your mind from wandering might help, like art, math, music, etc. Although snuggling a pet tends to work pretty well. It's not a exactly a solution, but it can make you feel better.

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Just one hour ago, I received a telephone call from my elder brother that our mother died. The bus she was traveling in, plunged some 90 meters (300 feet) off a roadside in a mountainous region of southern Mexico near the Guatemalan border.

 

My brother was one of the 31 wounded passengers.

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Just one hour ago, I received a telephone call from my elder brother that our mother died. The bus she was traveling in, plunged some 90 meters (300 feet) off a roadside in a mountainous region of southern Mexico near the Guatemalan border.

 

My brother was one of the 31 wounded passengers.

OMG I'm so sorry! *hugs* I hope your brother recovers quickly, and I'm so sorry to hear about your mother.

 

I'm dealing with loss myself. This morming I got a call that my great aunt had passed away. She was 104 and just a month away from her 105th birthday. She was so strong and even lived through a concentration camp back in WWII. I'm...not okay right now. My heart hurts so much. She was so amazing, so positive, so sweet. I....I just can't right now..😢😢😢

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I feel beyond devastated, beyond words to explain the pain and sorrow I've been carrying for weeks now.

 

I have my dream job, my dream job that I built alongside with my friend! It's all our work, our business, just us with our different skill sets coming together to be able to accomplish this. But she keeps crossing into my area of the business, and deleting tracts of work I do because she doesn't see "any value to it". I get that- you don't understand the value because it's not your field of expertise, it's mine! That's why it's my work! But this will be the third time in a short period of time that I have my work deleted, deleted while I try and justify my work.

 

I can't work like this, constantly being doubted by my own partner and having my work removed in the blink of an eye, and then told to shut up. It's devastating. All the arguments are also devastating, all times you just throw a tantrum and then give me the silent treatment, while people using our products are calling for help, and the help they need comes from your side of the work. And what am I meant to tell them? That I can't even promise anything considering my own partner treats me like garbage? We're meant to be friends, and people see us as one entity not different people. I don't have the heart like you do to trash talk my friend in the open. And now I find out from people that you've cheating our own products for yourself, for your own personal use when we said we wouldn't?? This level of betrayal is just crushing.

 

I don't know what to do. I don't want to quit, I don't want to give up. It's my dream job, and it was going so well. But if I keep going like this, I'm going to end up in hospital again, and even when I tell her how sick it's all making me, she doesn't care. She continues to ignore me, and continues to do her own thing and delete whatever I try do. I keep waking up screaming in the middle of the night, or otherwise just not sleeping. I don't have time to visit or see my friends on the weekend, in my few hours of downtime a week I just find myself sitting and staring at a wall, wanting for everything to just end. I don't know what I'm meant to do.

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@spicedpunch

 

I'm sorry to hear, but your partner seems incredibly toxic. Old friend or no, seems like your paths and priories are going different directions, implying that you might need to split and find someone better. You say it's your dream job, but not so long as she's involved.

 

Sorry, I'm getting kind of worked up about this. I've just seen and experienced a fair share of business partnerships not work out.

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@spicedpunch

 

I'm sorry to hear, but your partner seems incredibly toxic. Old friend or no, seems like your paths and priories are going different directions, implying that you might need to split and find someone better. You say it's your dream job, but not so long as she's involved.

 

Sorry, I'm getting kind of worked up about this. I've just seen and experienced a fair share of business partnerships not work out.

Thank you, it's similar advice that my parents gave me. They say I should split off, set it up on my own and run it myself, but it's such a huge job... it took us 2 years to get where we are now, I can't believe I not only have to give it all up and do it again, but go through the stress of starting from scratch on my own. But at the moment, I'm just so tired all the time, and crying so much, if I don't do something it's not gonna go well.

 

It just soul crushing to finally have your dreams in your grasp only to watch it get pulled away from you and have to start from nothing again. I'm not sure I'm strong enough to do it.

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Thank you, it's similar advice that my parents gave me. They say I should split off, set it up on my own and run it myself, but it's such a huge job... it took us 2 years to get where we are now, I can't believe I not only have to give it all up and do it again, but go through the stress of starting from scratch on my own. But at the moment, I'm just so tired all the time, and crying so much, if I don't do something it's not gonna go well.

 

It just soul crushing to finally have your dreams in your grasp only to watch it get pulled away from you and have to start from nothing again. I'm not sure I'm strong enough to do it.

I feel you! When it seems like everything is in vain... But know that you carry with you the experience from the first time around. The word of an internet stranger isn't much, but I believe in your strength!

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Sorry for my bad English as it's not my first language, hope it didn't cause you any inconvenience.

 

I'm 20 years old, and think I love someone I met online. A few things I know about him are, his name and age, country etc. But these are just basic informations and I don't even know if he has a girlfriend...

I've never met him in person but I know his face. When I first saw his pic, I thought he was handsome but now I can't stop thinking about him. When I've talked with him, he was very gentle with good manners! I think he's everything I've ever wanted in a man.

But here are two worst parts: he is almost ten years older than me... also he lives in a country where people have an antipathy to my country. I'm so sad about this. I told the story to my friend yesterday and she said to me: "I'm not saying he didn't seem like a nice guy, but that's not good because he is from (his country). Just give up."

Is there any chance I could get close with him? If so, what should I do? I want to know more about him and want to be his friend at least. Yes, I know it's hopeless. So depressed. I just need somewhere to vent to..

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Sorry for my bad English as it's not my first language, hope it didn't cause you any inconvenience.

 

I'm 20 years old, and think I love someone I met online. A few things I know about him are, his name and age, country etc. But these are just basic informations and I don't even know if he has a girlfriend...

I've never met him in person but I know his face. When I first saw his pic, I thought he was handsome but now I can't stop thinking about him. When I've talked with him, he was very gentle with good manners! I think he's everything I've ever wanted in a man.

But here are two worst parts: he is almost ten years older than me... also he lives in a country where people have an antipathy to my country. I'm so sad about this. I told the story to my friend yesterday and she said to me: "I'm not saying he didn't seem like a nice guy, but that's not good because he is from (his country). Just give up."

Is there any chance I could get close with him? If so, what should I do? I want to know more about him and want to be his friend at least. Yes, I know it's hopeless. So depressed. I just need somewhere to vent to..

Pfft, when will people drop that annoying way of thinking? Romeo and Juliet is a good example to use here. The familes hated each other just because they were "them" and had no real reason to actually hate. Your two countries may not be friends, but the people shouldn't be judged the same. Everyone is different and their own person.

 

Sure there might be an age gap, but that's the only thing I see iffy here. And even then its just my own personal taste. I try to stick within 5 years age difference, as long as you don't have any doubts about him that's all that matters.

 

Trust your gut instincts and follow what you think is right.

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Sorry for my bad English as it's not my first language, hope it didn't cause you any inconvenience.

 

I'm 20 years old, and think I love someone I met online. A few things I know about him are, his name and age, country etc. But these are just basic informations and I don't even know if he has a girlfriend...

I've never met him in person but I know his face. When I first saw his pic, I thought he was handsome but now I can't stop thinking about him. When I've talked with him, he was very gentle with good manners! I think he's everything I've ever wanted in a man.

But here are two worst parts: he is almost ten years older than me... also he lives in a country where people have an antipathy to my country. I'm so sad about this. I told the story to my friend yesterday and she said to me: "I'm not saying he didn't seem like a nice guy, but that's not good because he is from (his country). Just give up."

Is there any chance I could get close with him? If so, what should I do? I want to know more about him and want to be his friend at least. Yes, I know it's hopeless. So depressed. I just need somewhere to vent to..

My fiance and I met online. He is 9 years older than me and we have now been together for 7 years. I would say right now just talk with the guy, get to know him, his likes and dislikes, common points of interest. I have had many friends over the years, who have come from all walks of life and from many different countries. We learned many things from one another. All you really have to do is talk, ask questions and answer his questions, if any.

 

Don't let which countries you come from dictate who you should be friends with/love. Don't let other people tell you either. I am guessing this guy knows what country you are from and seems to be okay with it at this time, so if he is fine and you are fine with where he resides (i mean, in so far as you guys are still talking with one another and willing to continue doing so), then what does it matter what others or telling you?

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Sorry for my bad English as it's not my first language, hope it didn't cause you any inconvenience.

 

I'm 20 years old, and think I love someone I met online. A few things I know about him are, his name and age, country etc. But these are just basic informations and I don't even know if he has a girlfriend...

I've never met him in person but I know his face. When I first saw his pic, I thought he was handsome but now I can't stop thinking about him. When I've talked with him, he was very gentle with good manners! I think he's everything I've ever wanted in a man.

But here are two worst parts: he is almost ten years older than me... also he lives in a country where people have an antipathy to my country. I'm so sad about this. I told the story to my friend yesterday and she said to me: "I'm not saying he didn't seem like a nice guy, but that's not good because he is from (his country). Just give up."

Is there any chance I could get close with him? If so, what should I do? I want to know more about him and want to be his friend at least. Yes, I know it's hopeless. So depressed. I just need somewhere to vent to..

I met my boyfriend online. We've known each other for almost three years now and started dating two days before Valentine's Day this year. He's perfect, even if he is four years older than me. We live in the same country, but he's about 1500 miles away an has a job that keeps him busy. We're trying to fit a visit or two in this summer smile.gif

 

If you like this guy, go for it. I know there's a stigma associated with online relationships, but there are plenty of happily married couples out there to contradict it. Listen to your heart. If it doesn't happen to work out for you two, you'll still have the happy memories. Just take it slow, be safe, and get to know him before you jump into dating.

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Aww, everyone has kind spirits! Okay, I'll try to talk more with him. Actually he doesn't know yet where I'm from, just knows that I'm Asian. Maybe I needed advice about love online, and some courage. Thank you all for putting heart into me! <3

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Aww, everyone has kind spirits! Okay, I'll try to talk more with him. Actually he doesn't know yet where I'm from, just knows that I'm Asian. Maybe I needed advice about love online, and some courage. Thank you all for putting heart into me! <3

I think the first step is to meet him. I met someone who is older than me, 12 years in fact. The place we met was online and we actually met last year and we've been in constant communication via phone. He's actually admitted that he regrets ever leaving me to go back home. We actually haven't said that we love each other just yet, but I think we're aware that we do.

 

We miss each other every day. But love is love, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, even if he is 10 years older than you.

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One of my long time pets died today. I just finished burring her, and although she had been dying for a while, it doesn't really make it any easier.

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One of my long time pets died today. I just finished burring her, and although she had been dying for a while, it doesn't really make it any easier.

*hugs you tightly*

 

I am so sorry. sad.gif I know exactly how you feel. Earlier this year we had to put my dog down. He was 13 and he was in a lot of pain. The only comfort I can offer is the knowledge that your beloved pet isn't suffering anymore and they feel no more pain.

 

*more hugs*

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~TRIGGER WARNING~

 

Semi lighthearted rant. But emotional support is also needed, please.

 

For the past half a year or so, I have been dealing with a lot on my plate. I'm going through a divorce, one that was very nasty and violent (sexual assault, domestic abuse, cheating, et cetera). I have been having a lot of thoughts of self-harm, and I have attempted suicide 3 times in the past 6 months. I cut my right forearm when I'm self-harming, and it's pretty scarred. I had to testify against my ex-husband for the sexual assault not long ago, and that put me in a bad place. I had a panic attack during the interrogation. The final decision and sentencing is coming up, and I'm panicking over it.

 

With all of my mental health issues, I pretty much expected Dragon Cave to be a safe place for people. Somewhere where we can escape our real life problems and just forget about the world for a moment's time.

 

Truth be told, I was almost afraid to come back. I have been absent for two months dealing with the real life issues. We aren't all strong 100% of the time. But I was afraid to come back because I was afraid of backlash. I had made several trades during the good, happy times on the site. Then fit hit the shan and I had to get away for a while to deal with said problems. I never intended to leave people hanging with trades (though 95% or so I fulfilled my end already). So, I expected my inbox to be filled with "YOU'RE GOING ON MY BLACK LIST!"

 

I received one particular message earlier today that really struck me. It was passive-aggressive and it hurt me:

After seeing my messages to you go unread and ignored while you are active in other parts of the forum I give up. I have tried time and time again to deliver my end of the deal. Consider the trade agreement we set up - over 3 months ago! - null and void.

Do not contact me again.

 

I never intended to "ignore" someone (especially for 3 months???). Plus, I wouldn't have been hurt or fussed if it was ME who didn't deliver. I haven't even been that active in the forums lately. One post here and there. I used to post 100x a day - now it's 100 posts in the last 6 months, if I count them and I'm lucky.

 

If anyone has seen me around the forums, you see that I have Raffled off (I think) over 10 CB Golds (+ a few in the Dragon Cave Group on Facebook) and over 20 CB Silvers. I'm a nice person. I get my ends of trades to people. I think I have maybe 5 people I still owe something to, but I also have over 100 completed trades. It's not like I'm one of those people who make a lot of trades and don't ever intend to fulfill them... BUT REAL LIFE SUCKS.

 

I can't control other people, but I guess people don't consider mental health issues, a violent divorce, and suicidal actions as a reasonable "excuse" anymore. Maybe I shouldn't even be writing this. Maybe I'm really the bad one and I just can't see it. sad.gif

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I don't know what's wrong with me anymore. At work, I'm fine, but when I'm at home, I get all this bubbling anger and rage inside me or I'm full of sadness. Like right now I've been crying over the past ten minutes. Mainly because I don't think I can become the artist and Spriter I want to be because I don't have the luxury of being on a PC anymore. I've lost motivation on a lot of stuff and it looks like art is going to be thrown into the very same pile as video games, streaming, writing (to an extent).

 

I just don't have the heart to do anything.

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Don't let Dragon Requests drag you down, Dalek! Even without the tools, you can still keep doing what you can with just a pencil and some paper. It's frustrating not being able to do what you want to do because you don't have money or access to tools, but that's no reason to give up entirely!

 

Take a break. Get back to basics, and try to hold the fort! Opportunity may present itself in the future to you with the tools you need.

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