Emotional Support

[Omega Entity]

I'd say, let things play out as they will. Playing a guessing game about things will only make things worse for you - the relationship ended for unspecified reasons, and leave it at that. Maybe down the line, when emotions are no longer running high, you can get some closure from her.

 

Also keep in mind, you are still really young - you're not supposed to know how things go in your first relationship, or really even your fourth or fifth. Dating and relationships are like a series of experiments, mostly consisting of trial and error, and a whole lot of screwing up. You're not doing anything wrong. And I wouldn't call you clingy, unless you're blowing up her phone or trying to talk to her when she wants to be left alone, or follow her around (i.e., stalker-mode ENGAGE!).

 

As for your hangout over the weekend, nothing says that you have to invite her directly. Since you share the same circle of friends, it'd be easy enough to let those friends know that, "Hey, it's okay if [insert ex's name here] wants to come too - the more the merrier", if you have a hard time approaching her directly on it.

 

A first crush/relationship is usually the hardest to get over, and it sounds like you're doing just fine, even though it may not feel like it right now. Just give it some time. And time will tell whether your friendship will reform, or form into something else entirely. Some people can be great friends with their exes, while others find it to be too awkward and stressful to share the same space as them. Things will happen as they will, and it's best to not try and force things one way or another - just let things form naturally.

 

Got a little rambly there, so hopefully this all makes sense.

Edited June 17, 2015 by Omega Entity

[MedievalMystic]

None of this matters, expect as a learning experience at your age. And I'm talking to all teens your age. This will not matter in your future one whit. What you're describing is just so common, especially at 15. And speaking of age, imo, it's way, way too soon for you to be sweating over relationships. Hell, you can't even drive yet.

 

This was no real romance, sorry. Kids your age mess around and experiment with relationships...that's all this is, imo. It's very common for teens to get very passionate and emotional at your age...thinking the world has ended and wallowing in misery and asking yourself endless questions if your relationships don't work. It doesn't seem you're at that point, but that's very common at your age as well. I assure you and all other teens your age, the sun will still rise tomorrow if you suffer a break up. Sounds like this girl simply changed her mind...as teens are wont to do. Teens tend to go through 'relationships' like they go through underwear. I dated my high school sweetheart from 9th grade to my senior year. We broke up often. We'd both have someone new in no time. Then we'd be back on again. Then we'd be off... lol

 

It doesn't matter what you did, or didn't do, or what she did or didn't do...you're in 'practice mode' at your age when it comes to love. And that's how you should see it, imo. You had an experience. You'll have many more. Some will be good, some not. You'll make mistakes and flub. You'll learn as you go what you want and what you don't as the years go by. It's called growing up. I'm sorry if that sounds flip, but at 48 I've been around the block a few times and raised two teenagers. Any relationships you have between now and 20+, are learning experiences. It's very rare, very, very rare, for two people your age to meet and live happily ever after. Maybe 1 in millions of teen relationships work out that way, so never count on that.

 

Worry about your grades and your education. That and that alone should be priority number one. That education will serve you better in the long run than any passing 'relationship' you have at this point. All this emotional crap you're dealing with is the main reason I advise against trying to get serious with anyone at this age. You have more important things to worry about than some fleeting relationship...yourself and your future.

 

If you were my daughter, there wouldn't be any real 'dating' allowed until you were at least 16.

 

Edit: What Omega said, too.

Edited June 17, 2015 by MedievalMystic

[Sundew]

I'd say, let things play out as they will. Playing a guessing game about things will only make things worse for you - the relationship ended for unspecified reasons, and leave it at that.

Thanks. I think I will do that.

 

Also keep in mind, you are still really young - you're not supposed to know how things go in your first relationship

None of this matters, expect as a learning experience at your age.

Ha, yep. Young age is one of the reasons that I doubt having a relationship currently, but yes, it is a learning experience. Gotta ease up to these things (?), have to learn addition before trying multiplication. I figure it is better to get the naivety out of the way while it's socially acceptable, rather than waiting until relationships become "real" and going into them with the wisdom of my current self.

 

And I wouldn't call you clingy, unless you're blowing up her phone or trying to talk to her when she wants to be left alone, or follow her around  (i.e., stalker-mode ENGAGE!).

Wait--are we not supposed to do that? .

 

A first crush/relationship is usually the hardest to get over, and it sounds like you're doing just fine, even though it may not feel like it right now. Just give it some time. And time will tell whether your friendship will reform, or form into something else entirely. Some people can be great friends with their exes, while others find it to be too awkward and stressful to share the same space as them. Things will happen as they will, and it's best to not try and force things one way or another - just let things form naturally.

 

Got a little rambly there, so hopefully this all makes sense.

Yes, it does. Thank you. I hope she and I will continue to be friends, but if not, there are other people I can count on. I think I'll invite her and see how it goes. Worst case scenario, we stop talking.

 

This was no real romance, sorry.  Kids your age mess around and experiment with relationships...that's all this is, imo.

Okay. I know I will probably look back on this and not care, not consider it a relationship (even now I hesitate to call it one; one month doesn't hold up well compared to.. anything else), but as it is right now, this is my deepest romantic experience. It won't be, later, but right now it's hard to look at it in perspective simply because I don't have perspective at my age. You've been a teenager, though, you know this. Thank you and I do try to consider this long run aspect of things, it's just difficult when the longest run I've had is remarkably short.

 

Worry about your grades and your education.  That and that alone should be priority number one.  That education will serve you better in the long run than any passing 'relationship' you have at this point.  All this emotional crap you're dealing with is the main reason I advise against trying to get serious with anyone at this age.  You have more important things to worry about than some fleeting relationship...yourself and your future.

Yes--education and an independent future come first. I don't consider this to have been serious, but it did happen and I did have feelings, so angsty teenage rant post.

[MedievalMystic]

I understand your emotions, and they're perfectly normal, AB613. I didn't mean to imply that they weren't or to brush off very real feelings. Whether a relationship lasts a month or a year at your age, you learn something from every single one of them. That's what you're supposed to be doing. Learning. Thinking. Experiencing. Growing. Relationships, be it friends or love interests at your age, are all a part of that process. Enjoy it. But don't get so emotionally bogged down that it prevents you from enjoying these wonderful, young...short... years of your life to the fullest. No 15 year old, imo, should be getting too serious with anyone and that's the whole bunch of you. That's all.

Edited June 17, 2015 by MedievalMystic

[Brite]

Starting a pet nutrition class today. Online class though. Haven't done one in a long time and I'm nervous. My worst fears (failing, wasting the money put in) are flooding my mind and it's stressing me..

[SULDhasno]

I have to agree with this. Every time I see somebody I hate in a bad situation, I internally cackle and eat imaginary popcorn. In fourth through fifth grade, there was this group of four girls who found joy in openly judging me and being utterly annoying, not to mention being perfectionists and calling my work messy, ect. And acting like I had the cooties (which a lot of kids did and still do now :M). Anyways, if I ever saw them in crutches or with a cast, I would laugh hard and pretty much say "Look who's not perfect now"

 

It's natural. It is never good to wish bad on somebody who is nice and never did anything wrong to you, but on your enemy? Psssh

If only that happened to these girls in my class. They're those popular girls you get at every school but I think they're only popular because everyone is scared of them. They hate me especially, and they've set this unofficial rule down that I can't talk in their presence (Still do it anyways ). And they're those kind of pretentious people who get on my nerves (Oh my god this, Oh my god that, Oh my god who's his girlfriend this, Oh my god my hair is so weird today). The problem comes with the fact when they hate someone, almost the entire year group hates that same person as well. I still have friends of course, and I couldn't give much of a about them, but heck, I would pay anything to see them come in with a broken leg. Too bad it's the summer holidays, so I won't see that anytime soon.

[georgexu94]

Starting a pet nutrition class today. Online class though. Haven't done one in a long time and I'm nervous. My worst fears (failing, wasting the money put in) are flooding my mind and it's stressing me..

Don't worry; you'll do great! Learning anything requires patience and hard work and failure is inevitable. The important thing is to learn from them.

 

Take this driving lessons I'm taking. I keep on failing at turning and changing lanes but I am, or at least like to think that, I'm getting the hang of it. I might have traumatised myself with those rude jeepneys but that doesn't make me stop learning.

[MedievalMystic]

They hate me especially, and they've set this unofficial rule down that I can't talk in their presence

 

Really now. How utterly amusing. If it were me, they'd hear me talking all damn day long. A lot of talking. All the time, talking. Lots and lots and lots of talking. Morning, noon and night, talking. In their face, talking. Talking when they tried to talk. I'd torture those pitiful twits with my endless talking. lmao

 

 

The problem comes with the fact when they hate someone, almost the entire year group hates that same person as well. I still have friends of course, and I couldn't give much of a censorkip.gif about them, but heck, I would pay anything to see them come in with a broken leg. Too bad it's the summer holidays, so I won't see that anytime soon.

 

You aren't hanging around people that are worth your time. You're hanging around just one of the many herds of sheep in this world that can't think for themselves. Be you, be a unique individual with your own mind, opinions and thoughts, and the hell with the herd.

 

Enjoy the summer.

 

My worst fears (failing, wasting the money put in) are flooding my mind and it's stressing me..

 

If you're determined not to fail, you won't ever allow it to happen. You'll do whatever it takes to succeed. Good luck!

Edited June 17, 2015 by MedievalMystic

[zorua9]

this might not sound like much, but this makes me so angry and so sad. I am in a WoW guild, one of the guildies.... I feel like they are doubting me and feeling as he harasses me because I "refuse" to learn my class and "refuse" to raiding stuff, I posted something about it on facebook and he said that I don't do this and don't do that, and I will admit that I am not the brightest person nor am I the sanest person, but I feel highly offended by him.

 

I asked him to help me with a raid, he said no, because I am a little who refuses to learn my class and he replied that I expect everyone to carry me through everything, which is not true, I will pull some weight till I learn.

[zorua9]

Never have I felt so hurt, by people I don't even know. Even though what they said was online...I still feel like breaking down.

 

 

My so called friend invited me to a Skype call. Little did I know, apparently i was supposed to be a bot and 'not be here'. When I had asked in chat "Hey, who are these people?" I was spammed with "OH HEY NORA, ARE YOU A GIRL. HEIGHT/WEIGHT. ARE YOU HOT OR HIDEOUS." What the hell? I asked them why they were being creepy, because obviously to some people that would be kind of creepy...the response..it just hurt...so badly.

 

"Let's face it, Nora. You're probably ugly as

, aren't you? You're probably a fat, hideous mess that was just spawned in a cave and left to rot, sadly you seem to be alive, so. Hey, <so-called friends name>, why'd you invite this disgusting thing? how the hell did you deal with this LOL."

 

...Why? That response was not relevant, I didn't insult them, provoke them, anything....why....I've never felt such pain, aside from what I had to go through in public school..

 

Why are some people so cruel................*Curls up and sobs furiously*

as tyrion lannister said on game of thrones (oh god I sound like a nerd...... not that a nerd isn't not great) "always know and remember who and what you are, where it like a shield and no one can hurt you" or something like that.

 

and people should not look at the way you are because of your looks, I haven't seen your face, you might be very pretty or not pyscally attractive, but that should not stop you from having a happy time and a wonderful life.

 

to me, a life is presiouces even though I have never in person met anyone on this forums face to face (probably...... maybe, I don't know as I don't like socialising), if this person is teasing you for your looks or what these people know of you, then don't forget what they have said, never forget, use as a way to help yourself lift you back into the air, I on many accasions have thought about ending my life because some of my primary school classmates called me "retarded" (and yes, it is true btw, but they meant it in a hurtful way), I kinda remember being teased for it but what I use is being teased, I use the anger, the sadness and all my other emotions to carry me away, to shape myself, I use it to fuel my body, so I can live, so I may breath in this world, so I may so my mother, my sister, my brother, my dogs and cats.

 

I once got my locker burned and a penis drawn (badly) on it as well, plus someone broke it so the lock would be useless, why, I still don't know today, the teachers think it might be a random thing or a planned thing, did I deserve to have that stuff happen to me, no, but it still happened.

 

also, a good cry is the thing followed by watching people fall over or cats sneezing.

 

this goes for anyone who is bullied on the internet or anywhere, just know there are people who know your pains, who know how to help, and to know how to destroy.

 

another messege, please I beg anyone who is having suicidal thoughts, please do not kill yourself no matter what, as there will always be someone who will miss you even if you don't think so.

[crazyflower]

this might not sound like much, but this makes me so angry and so sad. I am in a WoW guild, one of the guildies.... I feel like they are doubting me and feeling as he harasses me because I "refuse" to learn my class and "refuse" to raiding stuff, I posted something about it on facebook and he said that I don't do this and don't do that, and I will admit that I am not the brightest person nor am I the sanest person, but I feel highly offended by him.

 

I asked him to help me with a raid, he said no, because I am a little  who refuses to learn my class and he replied that I expect everyone to carry me through everything, which is not true, I will pull some weight till I learn.

If he is being a jerk and you don't want to hear from him anymore you can put him on your ignore list (type /ignore name). If you know the guild leader you may want to tell them of the issues you are having. I also play WoW. I can solo up to and including Cata raids on my Draenei hunter so depending which raid it is I could help you with it. Feel free to PM me about it.

Edited June 17, 2015 by crazyflower

[Wandering4Ever]

welp.. i just had to deal with someone telling me to my face that they thing my gender is stupid, me trying to desperately get attention, and that i'm only genderfluid because i want to 'hang onto my special snowflake title' since being pansexual has 'now become mainstream.'

 

I looooooooooooove people so much. I'm trying very hard not to sit here rolling my eyes going 'of COURSE it's a white, heterosexual cismale telling me this' but.. it's very hard since. That's exactly what it is.

 

Obviously i know not all of that group do this. But so far, they're the only ones that have ever really tried to tell me that my genderfluidity is completely invalid.

But. Whatever. Whaaatever.

[NoraNora]

Blergh, I feel so bad..

My good irl friend invited me to a last day of school party(even though I got out before her, of course I'd go). She introduced me to a few people that seem very nice, and she wanted to help me break out of my shell. The party....was just..no. It involved a perverted Truth or Dare, consisting of really disturbing/sexual actions. They played spin the bottle, and sprayed eachother with a hose, while wearing see-through clothing even before it got wet ._. To push it farther, she took off her SHIRT. With a few others following it! I still have trouble communicating and joining in, but with the type of conversation and amount of people all packed into the rented bounce house, I had to stop myself from having an anxiety attack.

 

I mean, she's very nice, and I bet her friends are too..but when it was around time to leave, I said bye but it went unnoticed by her and others(there were like 25 people talking, though), I turned around to wave thinking she heard me..she looked so sad. I feel horrible, I texted her though, she said it's fine but...gahh.

 

I still can't believe it though...we're all around 16, I did politely ask if there's anything less...sexual..we could do, but she simply said "It's teen stuff,don't worry and join in!" No thanks, I'm fine.. :/

[zorua9]

the "sexual" stuff is being apart of being a teen, but if you are not comfortable, then simple tell her or/and the other people that you do not feel right and that you will support them, but you will not par take in any of those "sexual" activates.

[AnanoKimi]

welp.. i just had to deal with someone telling me to my face that they thing my gender is stupid, me trying to desperately get attention, and that i'm only genderfluid because i want to 'hang onto my special snowflake title' since being pansexual has 'now become mainstream.'

 

I looooooooooooove people so much. I'm trying very hard not to sit here rolling my eyes going 'of COURSE it's a white, heterosexual cismale telling me this' but.. it's very hard since. That's exactly what it is.

 

Obviously i know not all of that group do this. But so far, they're the only ones that have ever really tried to tell me that my genderfluidity is completely invalid.

But. Whatever. Whaaatever.

Holy jegus you learn something new everyday~ Considering your post I searched the meaning of Genderfluidity and found out that I'm probably that aside from bi sexual since I often identify or personally admit to acting more of one gender than the other. There is even a inside joke within my group of friends that I am 70% girl and 30% guy because I have guy moments or do some things that would be considered as actions mostly done by guys and such.

 

Aaaaanyways, honestly I have found that doing one's best to ignore or simply be polite to those people is the best option. Mainly ignoring them. I think that some if not most of the people that say those kinds of comments feel inferior in some way or feel like because they don't have some sexual or gender identity crisis/realization going on they're not special. DO your best to simply hold your head up and just brush off the ignorant comments. Its not easy but at least in places like this you have people who support and care about you very much. <3 we understand and love you :3 I'm a bit of a dork/idiot so I might not fully understand some things because to me people are people regardless of gender identity, sexual preference, physical preference, blah, blah blah, all of those words are just noise to me. If you are nice, then you are a people and I generally like people so you are one of my people now and I hug you :3

 

Blergh, I feel so bad..

My good irl friend invited me to a last day of school party(even though I got out before her, of course I'd go).  She introduced me to a few people that seem very nice, and she wanted to help me break out of my shell. The party....was just..no.  It involved a perverted Truth or Dare, consisting of really disturbing/sexual actions.  They played spin the bottle, and sprayed each other with a hose, while wearing see-through clothing even before it got wet ._. To push it farther, she took off her SHIRT. With a few others following it!  I still have trouble communicating and joining in, but with the type of conversation and amount of people all packed into the rented bounce house, I had to stop myself from having an anxiety attack.

 

I mean, she's very nice, and I bet her friends are too..but when it was around time to leave, I said bye but it went unnoticed by her and others(there were like 25 people talking, though), I turned around to wave thinking she heard me..she looked so sad. I feel horrible, I texted her though, she said it's fine but...gahh.

 

I still can't believe it though...we're all around 16, I did politely ask if there's anything less...sexual..we could do, but she simply said "It's teen stuff,don't worry and join in!" No thanks, I'm fine.. :/

Sexuality and being open about it can be hard. Not everyone is comfortable with sexual things be it physical or spoken (jokes and the such) so its completely normal to be uncomfortable. Don't feel bad because you stood up for your discomfort. What you did was perfectly fine because you had the option of either staying in an uncomfortable situation and possibly being called out on it or leaving it and avoiding any issues.

 

Never feel ashamed or bad of completely removing your self from a situation that does not sit well with you. If your friends cannot understand this then honestly they are not friends. Your friend who hosted the party should have had the common sense to stop all of the overly sexual things the moment you complained. Or at minimum asked everyone to tone it down for your sake. When hosting some kind of gathering with friends you do your best to make everyone comfortable and ensure the situations do not go out of hand.

 

Also no, overly sexual things are not "a teen thing" its just an overly horny person thing. Some teens go by fine without any sexual encounters or openly sexual demonstrations like the ones your friend and those girls were doing. Its more of just a human thing but honestly what they did was still a little over the top and they could have definitely toned it down a bit. Trust me, been there, had to go through that, I'm more out spoken so I've verbally backhanded a few peoples for stupid things like that.

 

Try to explain to your friend why you needed to leave if you haven't already. Make it clear that not only are mildly social anxious but that over the top sexual displays like that just don't sit well with you. If that friend of yours is a good friend they will understand and support you as well as do their best to not bring you into those kinds of situations anymore. If not I would suggest to try and make a new set of friends. Not easy I know hun but better to have no company than bad company.

[MedievalMystic]

My good irl friend invited me to a last day of school party(even though I got out before her, of course I'd go). She introduced me to a few people that seem very nice, and she wanted to help me break out of my shell. The party....was just..no. It involved a perverted Truth or Dare, consisting of really disturbing/sexual actions. They played spin the bottle, and sprayed eachother with a hose, while wearing see-through clothing even before it got wet ._. To push it farther, she took off her SHIRT. With a few others following it! I still have trouble communicating and joining in, but with the type of conversation and amount of people all packed into the rented bounce house, I had to stop myself from having an anxiety attack.

 

The parents didn't notice any of this, especially the 'disturbing sexual actions' part? I assume there were parents around a group of 16 year olds having a party? They'd had to have been deaf, dumb and blind not to notice any of these goings on. They didn't say or do anything?

Edited June 18, 2015 by MedievalMystic

[SULDhasno]

Really now. How utterly amusing. If it were me, they'd hear me talking all damn day long. A lot of talking. All the time, talking. Lots and lots and lots of talking. Morning, noon and night, talking. In their face, talking. Talking when they tried to talk. I'd torture those pitiful twits with my endless talking. lmao

 

 

 

 

You aren't hanging around people that are worth your time. You're hanging around just one of the many herds of sheep in this world that can't think for themselves. Be you, be a unique individual with your own mind, opinions and thoughts, and the hell with the herd.

 

Enjoy the summer.

Yep. That rule they set down actually made it worst for them

 

 

[MedievalMystic]

Please read the first post. Edited June 18, 2015 by SockPuppet Strangler

[NoraNora]

The parents didn't notice any of this, especially the 'disturbing sexual actions' part? I assume there were parents around a group of 16 year olds having a party? They'd had to have been deaf, dumb and blind not to notice any of these goings on. They didn't say or do anything?

Well her mother was around and heard/saw them curse, talk about certain...things..and play the games. She's a very nice woman, but I think she just gave up trying to stop my friend and what they were 'playing'.

 

Also no, overly sexual things are not "a teen thing" its just an overly horny person thing. Some teens go by fine without any sexual encounters or openly sexual demonstrations like the ones your friend and those girls were doing. Its more of just a human thing but honestly what they did was still a little over the top and they could have definitely toned it down a bit. Trust me, been there, had to go through that, I'm more out spoken so I've verbally backhanded a few peoples for stupid things like that.

 

Try to explain to your friend why you needed to leave if you haven't already. Make it clear that not only are mildly social anxious but that over the top sexual displays like that just don't sit well with you. If that friend of yours is a good friend they will understand and support you as well as do their best to not bring you into those kinds of situations anymore. If not I would suggest to try and make a new set of friends. Not easy I know hun but better to have no company than bad company.

 

It wasn't just girls, either. She had guys too. But of course I'm fine with who she invited, but I had thought some of them wouldn't be okay with it. She had invited a shy girl she said I could talk to, since I'd prefer starting out with someone like me, but even she was excited and ready to do all these things...how on earth are these things fun? I would have explained what I felt, but I didn't want to say anything there, I guess I wanted to keep everyone happy. After she responded to my text though, I did explain everything, I'm just waiting to see her answer, I guess..

[MedievalMystic]

Well her mother was around and heard/saw them curse, talk about certain...things..and play the games. She's a very nice woman, but I think she just gave up trying to stop my friend and what they were 'playing'.

 

Then this weak, stupid woman shouldn't be a parent. As soon as that mess started, had it been at my house, the party would have been over. No ifs, ands or buts, they'd all have been out on their asses for disrespecting my house and my rules. I guess if they would have brought out the liquor, that 'nice' twit of a woman would have let that ride, too, and just walked away. I'm not that nice. Those kids would have seen the devil.

 

Now you know whose house to avoid because who knows what that ridiculous woman will turn a blind eye to next.

 

No wonder today's youth is whacked. Parents trying to be friends instead of parents, letting kids get away with not listening, worried about their kids approval, too afraid of hurting their feelings to be a PARENT. Pfft. That'll be the damn day.

Edited June 18, 2015 by MedievalMystic

[AnanoKimi]

Well her mother was around and heard/saw them curse, talk about certain...things..and play the games. She's a very nice woman, but I think she just gave up trying to stop my friend and what they were 'playing'.

 

 

 

It wasn't just girls, either. She had guys too. But of course I'm fine with who she invited, but I had thought some of them wouldn't be okay with it. She had invited a shy girl she said I could talk to, since I'd prefer starting out with someone like me, but even she was excited and ready to do all these things...how on earth are these things fun? I would have explained what I felt, but I didn't want to say anything there, I guess I wanted to keep everyone happy. After she responded to my text though, I did explain everything, I'm just waiting to see her answer, I guess..

As honorable as the sentence in bold it, your comfort and happiness should always come first to you. Always. Never be afraid to tell someone "Hey can you kind of stop? This is uncomfortable and really inappropriate. I'm all for being open and not ashamed of your body but there's a difference between a happy body image and showing it off with appropriate clothing or at most with your partner, but being kind of ****ty and taking your shirt of, no. Self respect and dignity come first ladies and gents. Boobs are nice, but still.

 

Also, medical hit the nail on the head. Those girls/boys could have possibly done something horrible, or hell had a bloody orgy with drugs and alcohol and I'm sure that woman wouldn't have care a smidge. That is ppor parenting and it not only puts her own kid at risk, but you as well. Again, avoid that friend's house, avoid any gatherings unless they are in a very controlled environment by a Parent, Guardian, or Adult with some bloody common sense who will supervise.

 

Have your parents talk to the guardian ahead of time and keep them on call. Also never be afraid to tell your parents about this. They can help you by giving you support and courage to stay away from people like that "friend" that could one day potentially endanger you. Again, better no company than bad company dear. We are just as real as them and always happy to call you friend so never forget that <3

[NoraNora]

I told my parents and was texting another friend the entire time, I'm not sure if my mothers going to do anything, but I'm no longer accepting any invitations to her house, that's for sure. I noticed too that as time went on, the sweet and innocent friends I knew started to change drastically. The one I was texting used to be extremely peppy and liked to wear colorful things, now she's somewhat less energetic and wears mostly screamo band things, but I'm fine with that, because she's still very sweet and understanding. The one I was with yesterday used to be loud and just all around fun and innocent, then again most kids were innocent in the school I went to. Now, she's doing all of this, but she's still kind..she just changed a little too much, I guess. But, I can't stop the way they change completely *Shrugs*

 

Have your parents talk to the guardian ahead of time and keep them on call. Also never be afraid to tell your parents about this. They can help you by giving you support and courage to stay away from people like that "friend" that could one day potentially endanger you. Again, better no company than bad company dear. We are just as real as them and always happy to call you friend so never forget that <3

 

I might ask my mother again, and maybe we can talk to her mother and see if anything was done or could be done. And thank you, friends n.n <3

[silver_tiger]

Then this weak, stupid woman shouldn't be a parent. As soon as that mess started, had it been at my house, the party would have been over. No ifs, ands or buts, they'd all have been out on their asses for disrespecting my house and my rules. I guess if they would have brought out the liquor, that 'nice' twit of a woman would have let that ride, too, and just walked away. I'm not that nice. Those kids would have seen the devil.

 

Now you know whose house to avoid because who knows what that ridiculous woman will turn a blind eye to next.

 

No wonder today's youth is whacked. Parents trying to be friends instead of parents, letting kids get away with not listening, worried about their kids approval, too afraid of hurting their feelings to be a PARENT. Pfft. That'll be the damn day.

...yeah, I really have to agree with this. In this case, it's pretty much absolutely the parent's fault things got so far. I'm sorry you had such a rough time at the party, Nora, and I hope your friends behave more rationally when they're not in 'party mode', for lack of a better way to put it, but maybe you shouldn't go back to that lady's house, no matter how much you might like her kids. Maybe you guys can meet up somewhere next time, or have a smaller group meet up, like to go to a movie or something? Idk, I know movies are pricy these days but I can't think of a better suggestion, lol.

 

...also this is roughly half of why I'm never having kids, lol. It's so hard to be a parent and I'm sure I'll screw it up some way or other, pfft.

[NoraNora]

Oh my god. Just....oh my ****ing god. I just had the worst nighterror, paralysis, whatever you call it. Ican't stop whimpering andshaking, holy . All I can somehow remember is this huge freaky black creature staring at me with huge-Kipz teeth...oh my god. That was ****ing horrid. I couldn't move or anything, and my stomach and neck hurt. Christ...

[AnanoKimi]

Oh my god. Just....oh my ****ing god. I just had the worst nighterror, paralysis, whatever you call it. Ican't stop whimpering andshaking, holy . All I can somehow remember is this huge freaky black creature staring at me with huge-Kipz teeth...oh my god. That was ****ing horrid. I couldn't move or anything, and my stomach and neck hurt. Christ...

Breathe slowly. Deep breaths. If you breathe too hard/fast you might pass out from lack of proper oxygen to your system (mainly the brain). I doubt you want to pass out and go through that again. Next try and either mentally or verbally repeat a phrase, word, name, something that makes you happy. Grab your phone and look at something that would generaly make you smile or giggle. Once your a bit calmer try and get some water to hydrate your self as I'm sure you've probably been sweating. It will help you calm down further as well as get some water in you.

 

Keep repeating any of these as you feel is needed. If you know someone who may be available to talk over the phone/skype/etc, then contact them. Having a voice reassure you that everything is alright will help you calm down.

 

I hope you feel better and I hope this doesn't happen again as I can only imagine how stressful and terrifying that kind of experience can be.