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On 11/25/2020 at 9:16 PM, Lagie said:

It didn't work. Stuff had changed position AGAIN when I arrived this morning, supposedly knocked over by the cat (who is NOT supposed to even BE in the office), who is clearly very very clever and able to take one box out from under another and put everything else back just so leaving the one box on top of another pile.

 

And let's not get started on one of my once-a-week volunteers who was in today and decided to criticize the sales I'd made last week and the pending sale on another item. Grrrrr.

 

Or the customer who brought a massive pile of kids' clothes to check out, total of well over 100 dollars and at half price over 50, and said she had 23 to spend. Ri-i-i-i-ight. I think she expected me to say fine I'll take the 23. And I didn't.

 

Or the customers who show up at a quarter hour to closing and expect to be let in without having to wait because we're about to close even though we already have our maximum number inside so cannot let them in till someone leaves.

 

Or the idiots at the shelter inside the main building either maskless of half-masked.

 

It wasn't a very good day.

Sorry you have to deal with that. I used to volunteer at a thrift shop where all the money made went straight to the animal shelter. We had a few volunteers that were like that. Sticky fingers and crow eyes. (as crows are often attracted to shiny things) Years before I volunteered there, there were three ladies on one certain day that got caught taking money out of the flipping till, closed the shop for lunch and ate at a local restaurant using the money they took. They got caught and were let go. I don't know if any criminal charges were filed, but they were perma banned from both the shop and the shelter.

 

I hate the catty games some ladies played there. One lady judged me and my mother without even meeting me. I hadn't formed any opinion on her as I hadn't met her, yet I found out she refused to work with me because she couldn't stand me. Uhhh? how does that work?

I've only lost my cool on a customer once, and it wasn't really losing it, but breaking the customer service policy and told her straight up how ignorant and stupid she was acting. (deepest apologies to anyone who is part of this religion) She was Jehovah's Witness. She overheard me say to someone that I was Pagan. She approached me and started lecturing me about how evil those people were and using black magic and dark arts will only damn my eternal soul, or something like that. And she was shocked that they let someone who worships evil work at the shop.

 

I lost it. Civilly, but I was NOT putting up with her crap. It was years ago, but I remember telling her something like, "Ma'am. You don't even know the first thing about being a Pagan. First rule is 'Do no harm' so why on earth would being a Pagan be evil? Religion shouldn't matter when it comes to helping animals. All the money we make goes straight to them at the shelter for their normal care, vet costs, and getting them rescued and adopted. Animals should be loved and cared for on a religious-neutral ground."

She said something snarky back like, "Well why were you talking religion in here then?" And I replied, "Because someone asked? Also, you talk about your religion in here almost every time you come in."

The part that got her kicked out (yes she was asked to leave) was when she said, "Well, I'm the customer so I get to. You work here, so you shouldn't talk about that sort of thing."

The manager for that day had listened to see how I'd handle it and waited to see what the lady would say and approached us, she asked her to leave for trying to shame someone who has a different religion. The woman tossed her items in a nearby chair and huffed before saying we'd be lucky to see her or her money back in this store if we allow such devil-worship to take place. the manager let me price stuff in the back for the rest of the day and I was thankful for it. She also said, "Those in glass houses always scream the loudest." That made me laugh and feel better. she had my back.

 

So believe me, I understand stressful BS when it comes to that sort of work. I only quit because of the job I had gotten at the restaurant before I moved out of Florida. 

 

Sorry it was so lengthy, but I hoped it helped. I'd try to keep a record of what's going on and on which days. If there's a higher up you can report to, I'd do so. Little things here and there add up over time. couple bucks every day turn into $20 a week and $80 a month which turns into $960 a year. Nearly a thousand dollars a year? (that's just an example, but you get my point) And who knows what those items are worth that they're helping themselves to? $15 for that shirt, $40 for those pants, $10 for that toy? $100 for that game system? Crap like that can't continue.

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5 hours ago, Syiren said:

Sorry it was so lengthy, but I hoped it helped. I'd try to keep a record of what's going on and on which days. If there's a higher up you can report to, I'd do so. Little things here and there add up over time. couple bucks every day turn into $20 a week and $80 a month which turns into $960 a year. Nearly a thousand dollars a year? (that's just an example, but you get my point) And who knows what those items are worth that they're helping themselves to? $15 for that shirt, $40 for those pants, $10 for that toy? $100 for that game system? Crap like that can't continue.

Thanks! :)

I wish the next higher up person cared. He doesn't seem to as no matter what happens he basically shrugs and implies what can you expect. Mind you, this is the same person who's wearing his mask on his chin so of course most of the staff do the same. And then I get told off by the Board when one of my volunteers has the wrong style mask and someone emailed about it, while all the shelter staff have theirs on incorrectly or not at all. It's very frustrating.

(Well done with your customer handling! I am glad your manager backed you up. Our Board has no clue how stressful this job is.)

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Jesus christ, why wasn't I taught these things when I was younger??? I could have saved myself so much emotional trauma, damage and hardship and not have deal with the misguided internalised 'shame' gaslighting, coercion and bullying provides if, I in fact, knew how to understand my emotions, needs, have self-disicpline, self-compassion and knew how to enforce my boundaries when people (either unknowingly or maliciously) overstepped them. Essentially, I would have known how to love myself better and to have a better time with 'social learning.' I could have overcome that conditioned 'instinctial reflex' to immediately deny myself compassion and my emotional needs because I didn't know any other way to deal with real-life problems. I wouldn't have had to try and make my own 'inner voice' compiled of toxic shame, guilt, blame and fear. I could have done better.

 

There's so much I have to work on myself with. I probably wouldn't have had the patience and desire to 'break out of it' and realise the amount of emotional pain I was in if it wasn't for lockdown forcing me to sit with myself and think, "why are you feeling this way?"

 

I think we all could have recieved life-long benefits if we were actually taught the self-compassion and emotion strategies mentioned in this book in childhood: i.e. during school years. Education doesn't have to be a traumatic experience and neither do the following years. If most of what I remember from those years is trauma, anxiety, fear and depression, I was let down.

 

I have to recognise that:

I deeply struggle to learn, grow and recognise myself if I am feeling strong emotional pain - no form of avoidant mental coping strategy or escapism has helped me to overcome this. Thus, I have to make an imperative that I focus on my emotional healing or else I continue to internalise and juggle these haunting but treatable issues. The question now is, how? The answer lies in this nice book I have found myself with. Which feels very exciting! Will I 'cure' my long-term procrastination??? Find out next time on Dragonball-Z!

 

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*Stupid* freaking Unemployment is now requiring everyone to 'verify their identity' with ID.me, which is ridiculous in the first place since it's *just now* happening and the pandemic unemployment ends in just a few weeks, but even *more* ridiculous because freaking ID.me won't freaking verify my identity!!! The *only* option I can actually do is uploading photos of my ID, none of the other 'verification options' are possible for me (no access to phone-only apps, etc), I tried multiple times with *multiple* different photos and every time it says it can't read my ID!! 

 

NOW I'm going to have to call DES tomorrow and try to verify that way somehow?? Which is all the more frustrating because I've done the whole 'calling DES for unemployment reasons' and they *never freaking answer* and the wait is usually *over two freaking hours* and they won't freaking *allow* me to do my weekly claim (usually done today!) until I'm 'verified' now, which means because of STUPID ID.me not being able to read my *totally clear and readable* photos my weekly payment will be late!! Seriously! Shouldn't they have MADE SURE this website could actually properly READ PHOTOS before they did this??

 

*ahem* Okay, typing that all out did calm me a little. Not looking forward to calling tomorrow.

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It wasn't your lid to use for the dog that isn't even ours. The least you could have done was ASKED befiore you went and wrote on it in permanent marker. There were THREE other lids you could have used but, no, you had to take the only one that fits on the cat food cans.

 

And HOW many times have I told you all to NOT BLOCK  the pathway to where I feed the cats?!?!?! #$##$_$€*₩$#*$/_5#__€#÷%×&@

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I know the postal service has struggled to adjust to *ahem* world situations this year, but it's freaking December. You'd *think* they'd have *some* sort of established routine/process by now! Especially with the holidays!! Scenario I've gone through *multiple times* in the past month-or-so: Order stuff online, track package, tracking says something similar to 'attempted delivery failed' and 'post office will try again'. Get notice in mailbox about said package, call post office, am informed that they aren't allowed to leave packages at our door (small mailbox and apartment-office not allowing any mail drop-offs 'cause of world situation). Next day, GO TO POST OFFICE, spend over a half hour in line, am informed the package is NOT THERE and is out with the delivery driver again, and of course again it CAN'T BE DELIVERED so when I get home from post office I see another notice in the mailbox about it!! Arrggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh! (Thankfully today after calling to complain again they did deliver it to the door this evening, even though they still insist they aren't allowed to do that routinely....)

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8 hours ago, HeatherMarie said:

I know the postal service has struggled to adjust to *ahem* world situations this year, but it's freaking December. You'd *think* they'd have *some* sort of established routine/process by now!

i get this!  i ordered a phone holder for my car on november 26 (check the date, yep, that was thanksgiving!)  and by december 1 (5 days later) it was at my local post office.  great! i'll get it on the 1st or 2nd.  the next day, it was a county away from me.  then it was in the city! wha--? so i sign up for tracking.  and every day it tells me it's still on it's way and it will be delivered.  finally on the 11th or 12th, i decide that on monday the 14th i'll stop at the little post office in the town i work in and ask them if they can figure out where it is and when i might be getting it.... and then i get it on the 12th! i'd scream at it, but that won't do much so i have to laugh.

 

and last week i sent a package to my nephew, it was supposed to get there on the 12th.  it's sill "in transit, running late." grrr.....

 

however, the gift i ordered for my older daughter (who's home base is actually her grandparents/my inlaws), came the day it was supposed to. and when i asked her if she got it, she said "nope," so i sent her a pic of the tracking that said it was in the mailbox. she says "mom, it's cold and dark out there, i'll check it in the morning."  i told her i already had a package arrive 10 days later than it was supposed to it's 2020, please check to make sure something got delivered when it was supposed to be? finally she texted back that it was there. *whew*

 

huh, i do feel better now :)

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Bumping this up because I'm had A Day and ranting sounds really good right about now. .

 

Short backstory: Mom and I have been complaining for 3+ years now about the SUPER UNREASONABLY LOUD upstairs neighbors, and apartment office's response has basically been 'it's just an old building and we can't do anything' (bull!). Well the upstairs neighbors *finally* moved out (whining to the office about US making it uncomfortable for THEM because of our constant noise complaints!) (just to be clear, most of the noise was *not* building/floor/etc-caused, the neighbors routinely had physical fights that literally sounded like crap was being hurled against the walls....) 

 

Anyways, so after they moved out the office agreed to take a close look at that apartment and admitted they actually *could* do something about the floor-caused noise at least. ...... They are now tearing out the whole floor and putting in all new tiles/whatever, for the past few days now, which includes HOURS of the LOUDEST drilling/hammering/whatever-the-heck-that-squeeling-noise-is. My anxiety CANNOT HANDLE THIS. My anxiety sometimes causes an actual panic attack when the freaking gardeners are too loud OUTSIDE, this kind of noise RIGHT OVER MY HEAD my anxiety is just NOPE. 

 

When it comes to anxiety-causing noises, if I can't get away from the situation immediately I usually put on my headphones and blast the loudest music I have and sing along loudly. That works like 90% of the time with the gardener-noises. Not this. This afternoon I was more or less scream-singing trying to drown out the horribly loud noises, took an anxiety pill, after about 40 minutes it was just TOO MUCH I was shaking and crying and ended up basically running out of the house and down the sidewalk (in my socks...) to sit and cry on the bench by the barbecue. 

 

 

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Oh, Heather, I hope things are better for you now!

 

Trying to be nice is tying up my scroll! Why don't you just take the egg?

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This is why I only play Creative mode! Every single time I try to start a new game I end up either deep into the middle of a thick, dark forest or jungle where monsters attack and are safe during the day or I'm teased because the ore I need is locked inside a material that I can't mine because I lack the proper tool and it'll only vanish if I try to mine it! Therefore, that lovely iron ore that's locked in a marble block and Andesite block is only there to tease me because there is no actual STONE to mine and craft anything better than a wooden pick axe. and it'd be nice if the blue on the map was actually water and not slate which, or better yet when designing color for maps, try not to have something be the exact same color as water. 

 

And when I finally do find water, don't send a super zombie on me! what the heck! 

 

Moded minecraft is great, but sometimes..... I just wanna GAH!!!!!!!!

 

To whatever program or power that controls fate I will only say this:

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On 3/14/2021 at 9:48 PM, Syiren said:

 

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The gardener at my shop is very fortunate he wasn't around this afternoon when I discovered he'd been doing some random painting around the outside of my shop.

I HATE THE COLOUR.

I HATE THE LOOK OF HALF-PAINTED CONCRETE.

IT'S NOT HIS DECISION TO MAKE AS I AM THE SHOP MANAGER, NOT HIM.

NOBODY ASKED HIM TO **** PAINT. I'M NOT EVEN SURE HE'S GOING TO CONTINUE TO HAVE A **** JOB THE NEXT TIME I SEE HIM. 

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15 minutes ago, Lagie said:

The gardener at my shop is very fortunate he wasn't around this afternoon when I discovered he'd been doing some random painting around the outside of my shop.

I HATE THE COLOUR.

I HATE THE LOOK OF HALF-PAINTED CONCRETE.

IT'S NOT HIS DECISION TO MAKE AS I AM THE SHOP MANAGER, NOT HIM.

NOBODY ASKED HIM TO **** PAINT. I'M NOT EVEN SURE HE'S GOING TO CONTINUE TO HAVE A **** JOB THE NEXT TIME I SEE HIM. 

 

Oh, boy!  Sorry for the rough day!  Just think of your shot at last in the morning-- :)

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3 hours ago, Lagie said:

The gardener at my shop is very fortunate he wasn't around this afternoon when I discovered he'd been doing some random painting around the outside of my shop.

I HATE THE COLOUR.

I HATE THE LOOK OF HALF-PAINTED CONCRETE.

IT'S NOT HIS DECISION TO MAKE AS I AM THE SHOP MANAGER, NOT HIM.

NOBODY ASKED HIM TO **** PAINT. I'M NOT EVEN SURE HE'S GOING TO CONTINUE TO HAVE A **** JOB THE NEXT TIME I SEE HIM. 

*pat pat* Sorry to hear you're having such a rough day. There's colors I can't stand either. At least for wall colors and things like that. If it's too bright it messed with me, "I refer to it as being too loud" like a bright red or orange. Especially when they can do a number on me during migraines. Sounds like someone forgot who was in charge.

 

*offers you cookies*

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2 hours ago, random_dragon_collector said:

 

Oh, boy!  Sorry for the rough day!  Just think of your shot at last in the morning-- :)

Yay, shot! :)

3 minutes ago, Syiren said:

*pat pat* Sorry to hear you're having such a rough day. There's colors I can't stand either. At least for wall colors and things like that. If it's too bright it messed with me, "I refer to it as being too loud" like a bright red or orange. Especially when they can do a number on me during migraines. Sounds like someone forgot who was in charge.

 

*offers you cookies*

*noms cookies* Thanks! :)

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I'm so sick and tired of insomnia. I need to get this stupid sleep schedule under control! Going to bed at 4-5 AM and waking up around 11 to noon the next day is bad enough, but not getting to sleep until 10 and waking up around 2-3 PM? no. That's just... no, it needs to stop. Granted this morning there was that ruckus in the hallway outside my door where the guitar and boxes fell over, but no. I don't care what it takes I need to get to sleep at a semi-normal hour. I'll be happy if i'm in bed by 2 AM and asleep before 3 AM at this rate. Just anything's better than 10 AM!!! 

 

*whimpers into pillow*

 

Did I mention insomnia sucks?

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Why does this stupid internet riddle require me to learn music and chords, and to be able to hear and identify three sounds at the same time? (Or four sounds, I can't tell because, you know, THEY'RE BEING PLAYED AT THE SAME TIME.) This can't be how it's supposed to work???

Does it require people to learn Klingon grammar in one of the future levels? Because then it would be fair again.

I hate when things make me feel stupid .

 

Edit: I solved it somehow, but it looks like I really was supposed to hear the individual notes in a chord. My sister (who is in a band, so I think she knows how to music) did it that way. But the riddle is not specifically for musicians, so I still wonder how other people are supposed to solve it.

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WHY?? Why? What the heck? Got up early this morning and saw the devastating news that my very favorite show has been cancelled, right after a *HUGE* game-changing season finale. SERIOUSLY?! Manifest is *not* the kind of show you can do that with, so much is still unknown about the mystery and the consequences and the future for the characters.... Like, those sitcom shows where every episode has it's own nice neat plot wrapped up at the end of every episode, that's more acceptable to randomly cancel (I mean in general, not looking at specific shows). But a show that is ALL about the long-haul and 'everything is connected' and every single episode just raises more questions and gets deeper and deeper into the mystery and history and the season finale includes a *HUGE* twist that is going to severely affect whatever you thought was going to happen..... You can't just freaking cancel a show like that with no closure!! It's not fair to viewers, to fans, to the actors and writers/etc who spent so much time building up such a detailed interconnected story.  It's just wrong dangit, we should at least get a shorter 'wrap-up season' or something. So so so mad! 

(Apparently they may attempt to 'shop around' for a new home for the show, please please pleeeease let that work??)

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God I am tired, sick and tired of people trying to jeopardize lesbianism into stuff like "bi/pan lesbian" or "heteroromantic lesbian" - what part of "lesbians are women/fem aligned nonbinary people attracted to other women" was unclear?  it's not only gross and disrespectful to us, it's also equally nasty towards bi/pan people.  Time to log off Twitter...

 

(I doubt anyone here is a TERF but if you are do NOT even perceive this post)

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@HeatherMarie - wait... what?? not after that finale! argh! i want to know how that happened!

 

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15 minutes ago, HeatherMarie said:

(Apparently they may attempt to 'shop around' for a new home for the show, please please pleeeease let that work??)

i hope so!

after googling, i learned that there were 6 seasons all mapped out! we need to follow that map! there's questions i want answers to.... like, yesterday!

 

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5 hours ago, trystan said:

@HeatherMarie - wait... what?? not after that finale! argh! i want to know how that happened!

 

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i hope so!

after googling, i learned that there were 6 seasons all mapped out! we need to follow that map! there's questions i want answers to.... like, yesterday!

 

 

Yup, 6 seasons all planned out. That makes it even worse imo, to know we only got *halfway* through the intended story. Like, there is sooo much more that would've happened! We literally can't possibly figure out what the ending might have been, what the final answers may have included, because we were so far away from that end. 6 seasons was always on the optimistic side for this show, I think, but we need some answers, goodness. 

 

On an unrelated note: Gardeners, why must you come two or three days in a *row*? You were here for hours yesterday, why didn't you just do what you needed to do then? I'm tired. I'm so very tired, but thanks to the stupid anxiety-inducing gardener's sounds I must keep my headphones on and blast music in an attempt to drown it out. 

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5 hours ago, HeatherMarie said:

WHY?? Why? What the heck? Got up early this morning and saw the devastating news that my very favorite show has been cancelled, right after a *HUGE* game-changing season finale. SERIOUSLY?! Manifest is *not* the kind of show you can do that with, so much is still unknown about the mystery and the consequences and the future for the characters.... Like, those sitcom shows where every episode has it's own nice neat plot wrapped up at the end of every episode, that's more acceptable to randomly cancel (I mean in general, not looking at specific shows). But a show that is ALL about the long-haul and 'everything is connected' and every single episode just raises more questions and gets deeper and deeper into the mystery and history and the season finale includes a *HUGE* twist that is going to severely affect whatever you thought was going to happen..... You can't just freaking cancel a show like that with no closure!! It's not fair to viewers, to fans, to the actors and writers/etc who spent so much time building up such a detailed interconnected story.  It's just wrong dangit, we should at least get a shorter 'wrap-up season' or something. So so so mad! 

(Apparently they may attempt to 'shop around' for a new home for the show, please please pleeeease let that work??)

I felt the same anger with Mysteries of Laura, and my roommate felt the same for Firefly. what angers me most is great shows get canceled, yet crap fests like Batwoman on CW gets to keep going and going and going. Maybe it'll get picked up by someone? That happened to Lucifer when Fox cancled it. Netflix picked it up and most, if not all the actors jumped ship and followed it to Netflix.

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@Syiren - i hear your roommate there about Firefly!

 

@HeatherMarie - also: Lost.  the show's creators had to show ABC that they had it all planned out, and it went for 6 seasons.

also see Babylon 5: J Michael Straczynski, the writer/creator, was given a green light for 5 seasons, so he wrote it all out for 5 seasons.  then the channel told him in like season 3 that season 4 was to be the last one.  so he rewrote everything, condensing s4 and 5 into season 4.  THEN, almost right as the series finale would have aired in like a week or so, TNT picked up the show and said, "we'll give you season 5!" so he had to scramble together a s4 finale, and see who would be able to be back for a season 5. (which is why there's a few characters in the series finale but not in any of s5.)

 

i'm not a stranger to shows abruptly ending on cliffhangers (Moonlight, Farscape (before PKW)) but i don't like it.

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I love baking, I like baking cakes especially. Thing is, it's not good for you so I only get opportunity to bake cake about twice a year on average. Well it's midsummer it's one of those special days. Per tradition the folks of this house enjoy a strawberry cream cake after a nice lunch of herring and fresh potatoes.

I look forward to baking these rare cakes, I plan a full month ahead what they're going to taste like, look like, and I even order ingredients and tools specially so I can make them as delicious and beautiful as I possibly can. I watch videos and read tips of professional bakers about how to make nice cakes.

Over the past four days I've built it step by step, and this morning I was almost done - only needed to put some edible greenery as decoration just before serving - I put it in my own fridge I have upstairs and hurried into town to buy next week's groceries (I only go out to buy groceries once a week due to the pandemic and Fridays are the best fit for me). While there I get a text that we've unexpectedly gotten some extended family coming to visit out of the blue and they've served up my cake in the meantime.

I'm disappointed. I didn't get to finish it, or take any pictures of it before they carved into it. I got up early this morning to have enough time to do the piping and arrange the strawberries as nicely as I could.

They could have called in advance to let us know they wanted to visit, so I would have finished it and been back in time to take a few pictures, and serve it.

Or they could have served the almost a full package of strawberries, whipped cream and other ingredients I had left over and left for them in their fridge.

Of course I'm aware that you've got to be a good host and if you've got fresh homemade cake at home for a folk celebration of course you'd want to serve it but

the cake wasn't finished yet

there were other options

they could have called ahead of time - should have called ahead of time because we're in a frickin' pandemic and some of the people in this house would be in real trouble if they got sick and not every one is vaccinated yet

I didn't get any picture of it before it was demolished, and I wasn't even there to see them enjoy it

 

I just haven't had much to feel proud of in the past few years. I'd been looking forward to baking and serving this cake and I've put a lot of time, money and effort into it.

I know I might be a big silly baby goose about this because family still got to enjoy something nice I had done after all, and I'll probably feel embarrassed about this rant later but I legitimately feel upset enough about this that I want to cry a bit.

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4 minutes ago, Ripan said:

but I legitimately feel upset enough about this that I want to cry a bit.

And understandably so. I'm so sorry they did that to you. *hugs*

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@Ripan Agree that what they did was just not right! Sorry things turned out the way they did. Seems extremely inconsiderate to say the least.

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