Having kids in General Discussion Posted January 1 · Edited January 1 by Velvet_paw I have 2 children now both in their thirties. I am a big believer in spontaneity and when I started living with my partner we lived life & just took things as they came. When I did get pregnant, everybody at the doctor's congratulated me , and I honestly wasn't sure what I felt ,as, as others have said, the idea had always terrified me. (for those of you who are, I can reassure you and say that it isn't as bad as it sounds. and the joy you get from being a mother is something that I would hate people to regret in later life). My children have said that they aren't planning on having children at present for ecological,political and financial reasons which is their own choice. I cannot describe the overwhelming feeling when you imprint with your first and subsequent children . all I can say is that it has undoubtably made me a better person more empathic, relaxed and able to adapt to problems and see the funny side of things. I lost my 3rd child but when the prospective mothers who were trying again and again consoled me I could only think how lucky I was to have children. I hope that is in the spirit of the thread. In the end it is your body & own choice.but don't let fear put you off. Edit: as A biologist I wanted to have at least two children before I was 30 because of the increased risk of genetic abnormalities after that age.