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Everything posted by Shienvien

  1. Ditto, at least to this part of the post. I cannot say that I would call my reaction disgust if it was something what was going on in vicinity, though. Seeing two women kissing is not disgusting to me ... it more or less does not evoke any response in me. It's not something which'd stop me from thinking that I should pay the electricity bill and of what I will get for dinner - do I have food at home, should I visit a grocery store? - or whatever piece of writing I have in progress. (I however do tend to get kind of annoyed when a movie contains a particularly long scene of female on f
  2. Might be just me, but I find this last research paper to be rather biased and assuming the same. I wouldn't consider it evidence myself.
  3. I simply like collecting shiny things, that's all. That has no connection to the desire to nurture at all. (If nurturing any actual living thing only were as easy as putting a link up on two sites after first obtaining it! Or, for the matter of fact, not only living beings, but most more complex devices or pieces of equipment in existence... Bicycles require far more 'nurture' than that, let along cars or computers ... plenty of cars are quite 'well-nurtured', including those with male owners, heh.) I also tried playing Sims for a bit, though I must admit the main interesting aspect
  4. I do wear kind of skimpy clothing around the house during summer when it's 30-35 C outside. Sitting in front of the computer in bikini and dripping (I have a pond in my back yard) is also nothing out of ordinary during that time. I simply feel comfortable feeling little clothes if it is that warm out, that's all. - I know plenty of people who are the same way. ETA: To that article ... I feel little need to 'take care of' someone. I am poorly equipped when the nurturing is concerned. However, I am the kind of person who will without hesitation go (and did once actually go!) into knife-figh
  5. The ones which are generally thought of when tapeworms are mentioned (the big ones which grow up to several meters long) do not do it - they just sit in your intestines and absorb nutrients you need in your stead (so you might essentially 'starve' to death because of them, but won't have your internal organs physically damaged). There, however, do exist smaller parasitic worms (especially certain nematodes) which do burrow elsewhere in your body, and can kill you through internal bleeding and damage-related organ failure.
  6. I typically see skin color (or race in general) as simply a part of the person's visual description, nothing more. - Not at all different from saying that a person has green eyes or long light brown hair or a narrow nose or even that the one usually wears a blue jacket.
  7. I'd have to agree with that. Just because something displays people of certain race or having some other trait, it does not mean it's their race as the target unless it has been explicitly stated so. For some reason I doubt that if these people had been white, and on a similar poster, it would have been perceived as racist, despite the fact that racism against white people is existent too, if maybe not that common in predominantly white communities. (The poster would probably do it's job better if there was a mention of the crime, though, so anyone wouldn't jump to conclusions rashly.)
  8. Makes me wonder why those people - the ones who claim homosexuals shouldn't raise children - see the orientation of their parents as a factor which'd influence the children at all (assuming they do not believe that seeing gay people can turn other people gay or similar myths). How would it affect the child differently from, say, living with a mother and her mother (mother and grandmother)? Living with mother and her sister who share a house? With a father who has a housemate? (I've seen notions from the same people that they do not disagree with people of the same sex having a part in raisi
  9. Have to agree with KageSora here. For me - I am a very strictly heterosexual person - saying "I am heterosexual" means just that - "I cannot be attracted to another female, but I can feel attraction towards males." Does it harm anyone? No. Does it help people with how to approach me? Well, it might spare them from some awkwardness if people are well aware from the start that I, for instance, will never want to be physically close to another female and so forth.
  10. I would feel wrong if I had a male body... Yet, the rest of my nature still bids me to do what I have been doing all along.
  11. Well, there even was a time over here when short hair was only present on slaves and newly-married women, to think of it... (Meaning that long hair *was* the norm for men.) Also, I've heard that in old Mesopotamia, men pretty much used to wear skirts and women pants. Blue used to be 'girlish', pink 'boyish' in the western culture as late as at the beginning of 20th century. Eh, what do you say ... it's all just current fashion, that's all.
  12. Oddly enough, pink doesn't seem to be considered "feminine" color around here, as I've seen about the same amount of boys/guys wearing pink or purple shirts as I've seen girls/women. Which I for one, consider a perfectly normal thing. I am a bit on the same boat with you esnym (meaning I do not fit the stereotype), however I have been living in a freeminded enough society for no one except my own grandparents to ever suggest I should try to act or look more 'feminine'. Granted, I do have very long hair, for instance, but that *isn't* a feminine trait. I just happen to like long hair ... e
  13. I've said it before and I'll say it again: what you are like and what you like have NOTHING to do with your gender. Whichever gender has all the right to like whatever s/he does like. Guy who likes wearing makeup and pink dresses, taking care of children and shopping? Why not?
  14. Well, it is a newt... If it had been found in Europe, I'd have said that it is the 'land stage' of a smooth newt (Tritulus vulgaris), but since it was found in the US, I gather it is a related species, unless it has fled from somewhere. Here's a land stage smooth newt for comparison.
  15. I'd like to point out that the article phil linked also refers to several deaths which as I see it derive directly from insufficient after-abortion care (negligence). Also, women altogether refraining from seeing professional care due to abortion laws being strict. In my eyes, practically all examples given (all minus the ruptured womb one, to be more specific) point to why both abortion and *good* after-abortion care should be freely available.
  16. Time for covering distances fluctuates so wildly I consider it quite worthless as a measurement... Also, I'm a preferrer of 24 hours, and day-month-year.
  17. My country is metric-only, and I prefer and commonly use metric. I can use imperial, too, but for the most part it means that I am doing the approximate conversions in my head to get a clear image of what I'm dealing with.
  18. Freedom of expression is far more important than others' opinions on what should or should not be worn/displayed, as long as you're not saying that you are someone you are not or mocking them. There, however, are things which *are* extremely disrespectful, and which you *definitely* should not do if you're decent person (visit catholic church dressed like the pope, buddhist temple dressed in the yellow robe of Lamas, and ylangylang's home wearing Korean queen's outfit, hairdo and hairsticks when you are none of the three, for instance), but those things must be not punishable. The only ex
  19. @Marie: I've been speaking -specifically- of those prostitutes who force themselves or are forced into having sex. -Not- of all sex workers. And yes, the fact that it is sex does make a difference. From the moment onward it becomes unwillful it *is* essentially rape. @KageSora: I can relate to people not getting a response to something. What I do not understand is how one can enjoy something without emotions getting involved. The emotions might not last more than twenty minutes, but you can't like something you couldn't care less about. Edit: Thinking about it, I figure you m
  20. @analogized: You CANNOT detach sex from emotions simply because sex, in its nature, is very strongly connected to emotions. 'Feel good' hormones are released, hormones that encourage bonding are released. Pure, bodily functions. Sex causing emotions is one of the things which makes us human. Furthermore, some intimacy inevitably comes along with sex. You can't separate those either. How do you make any of your suggestions function properly in reality? How would you enforce it all? As for why sex work including actual sex has far more potential for severely damaging the worker's ps
  21. @danis: Wording is quite important in those kind of debates - it's not going to help your cause if you leave the wrong(est) kind of impression to others. There is a huge difference between me saying 'I am better programmer than you' and me saying 'I am better than you'. The first is probably correct (nearly a decade of IT-work here), but the second is definitely wrong. The same way, there's an *immense* difference between saying 'it makes me feel empowered' and saying 'it makes me feel confident in myself'. Why I asked the last question ... well, sex is a rather important bondin
  22. @Shiny Hazard Sign: You are taking my words slightly out of context here; with the 'being a decoration' comment I was referring to the fact that Jimmy had posted the answer as if to the question 'how does being a toy, decoration and an object empower one?' to which I'd say that no, THAT's definitely not what's empowering. Having a choice in essence might be considered empowering, being a thing never. As I see, there are three main issues with prostitution: How to ensure that no one of the workers are forced or force themselves to work? How to arrange unarguable legal background (no
  23. I don't think I agree with you, St.Jimmy ... especially with the bit you quoted. Being empowered should not be associated with being a decoration. (Ridiculous beauty standards without which you are worthless, being rejected for non-brand clothing, mandatory makeup at workplaces, 'sleeping one's way to the top'?) @Marie: slow clap is typically used to indicate sarcasm. Also, I love sex, too, but it doesn't help me to see your point here.
  24. What kind of sex workers were surveyed? 'Sex worker' is a bit too wide category to be lumped in one in surveys, I feel. That term includes phone services, strippers and others who never engage in actual sex with their clients. Then there are the callgirls whose main purpose is to look presentable at events, to be able to lead sophisticated conversations, and whose tasks only sometimes include sex as per the contract with the client. And *then* there are prostitutes, the people who I have been talking about, whose paid work consists predominantly of having sex. I am not against sex being s
  25. To the twenty you can add the accounts of other people and my impression of the statistics I've come across. The main difference between the decision to endure participation in sexual acts and putting up with another kind of unpleasant job is that sexual acts, in their nature, are extremely invasive, more so than almost anything else (being, say, a surrogate mother still trumps it). In case of unwilling participation, those are fairly likely to cause lasting psychological damage. This is why I think sex is something all counterparts must desire to participate in for it to take place. Whet