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St. Jimmy

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  1. Am I the only trans person who is uncomfortable with using "natal ____"? Personally it just feels like people saying "well you're this gender now but you were born ____." No, I was born male. I was assigned the wrong gender at birth. I'm not saying it's necessarily wrong to use it- if it's what you're comfortable with, all power to you! But am I weird for not feeling comfortable with the term at all?
  2. I'm not really sure I understand... I am a man (for the most part) at heart. That is how I identify. But I'm not cis.
  3. Except it's possible to have strictly one type of genitalia, and a different set of internal reproductive organs (or parts of both.) Or one type of genitalia and another type/different number of sex chromosomes. Or one type of genitalia and your body produces the hormones typical of another sex. All of those would be considered intersex, but each combination also falls in a different part of the spectrum.
  4. It's really a bit more complicated than that! Sex isn't really "so this is definitely male, this is definitely female, and everything else is intersex." It's on a spectrum, much like gender. Sex is determined by multiple factors: chromosomes, internal reproductive organs/gonads, genitalia, and hormones. What we define as "male" and "female" are really just the most typical combinations (or enough of them grouped together to assign one of those sexes). However, multiple other combinations are possible. Usually they're grouped together as intersex but are really a wide variety of biological
  5. Shoot, I meant to enter this one oh well... Voted!
  6. Ah, thank you. We have a definite winner! Thanks to everyone who entered; that was really close!
  7. Sorry I'm late again aarrghh! Looks like we have a tie, but according to Mirhana's post jesterboohoo would be the winner! (?) Congratulations!
  8. I'm an hour late oops The theme was spooky; here are the entries: sh20000sh - Full Moon jesterboohoo - The Weathered Grave Mirhana - Creepy Skull Lagie - Camden Town storefront Voting ends November 8. Good luck!
  9. Just a reminder that the contest closes tonight at midnight EDT!
  10. So I just noticed that fear has already been done so I'm just going to change the theme to Spooky. Oops.
  11. Since it's almost Halloween, I figured it's a good time to show off your photos of scary things. What are you afraid of? Dark spaces? Spiders? Or maybe you've captured someone else's fear on camera. Example (using a stock photo because I actually found nothing in my photos O_o) I think you guys can get pretty creative with this one! The rules: - One entry per person - Picture has to be made by yourself and can't be just a reproduction of someone's work. If someone else's work is in the picture, there needs to be something extra. - No manipulation besides basic photo adj
  12. Omg thank you guys! I'll have the next one up tomorrow, once I'm not dead tired.
  13. Oh goodness, I take so many similar to the example Autumn Fire
  14. Some states also require you to have lived in the same county for a certain amount of time. And get fingerprinted, which costs money to get done AND to file. The judge also asked me if my name change was because I'm trans... not sure how legal that is; it's really none of his business.
  15. I did! It helps a lot when I'm talking to people. Still have the same problems with background noise though; I don't think that's going away. Not very comfortable though
  16. How fun, my roommate thinks I'm lying about being HoH because he keeps me up at night playing video games, even when he's talking at a normal volume and across the apartment. I can't really get through his head that a) I still have hearing in my left ear and it fluctuates, there's no background noise at night and c) I can tell the difference between talking and not talking, the HoH part means I can't UNDERSTAND him. Hearies sometimes! >_< In other news, I'm going to a Deaf game night/lunch thing tomorrow. I've never been to a Deaf event before, so any advice?
  17. But asking for pronouns isn't misgendering?? I see it as the opposite - you're asking so you can avoid misgendering them. I'm with Sock & would definitely prefer someone asking me my pronouns than assuming the wrong ones. I'd even prefer it over someone not asking for fear of offending me. It should be a normal part of introductions, whether you're cis or trans.
  18. *hugs all around* Monday was supposed to be my court hearing to legally change my name. I thought it was going to be approved no problem, but apparently I'd been living just south of the county line for half a year, and in this state you're required to live in the same county for a year. So, name change was denied, and I'm stuck with my birth name until bleeping May. I could barely last the two months it took for all the legal stuff to go through... my birth name contributes to my dysphoria, and it's only gotten worse since it got denied. I don't know how I'm going to find the streng
  19. Hey, something we can agree on! While I wouldn't say I don't value children, I would not be able to cope with the psychological damage that that less than a year would give me, so I hope I never get pregnant either! It really is though? A fetus does not have bodily autonomy, while a baby or child does.
  20. It's not just psychological meds. I would have to stop taking testosterone if forced to go through with a pregnancy. As a trans person, being cut off from the meds that make living in this body more bearable would be devastating. And there's no alternative for hormones.
  21. I've heard a fetus can perceive things as early as 19 weeks, though most sources say sometime early in the third trimester (I don't really have exact info, looking at fetal development stuff gives me panic attacks). And as far as I know no one is sure whether they're consciously perceiving anything at all. Sentience of the fetus doesn't really matter in the abortion debate though - sentient or not, it's still using someone else's body to survive.
  22. Voted! Everyone had such cute photos.