I am pro-choice because it should boil down to what the pregnant lady wants. I get that maybe sometimes the father may grow attached, but ultimately it won’t be his body undergoing the process of child birth and pregnancy (as someone with a mild phobia of this, I cant see it in any other way than horrific but thats me lol).
Also, time and time again humanity proved bans and stigma won’t stop stuff from happening. Illegal drugs for example. Stigmatised? Yes. Illegal? Duh. In some places carrying can give sentences longer than more horrific crimes which is so unjust. But people still use it. And it puts them in more danger than if it were legal, regulated and de-stigmatised. Why? Well some people are afraid to admit they are users and need help, the stigma, fear of being shunned from family, fear of arrest. They may use and be afraid to tell doctors, afraid of any gossip and judgement (someone OD’d while I was at col and damn did that have a lot of gossip for the poor girl).
Its the same for abortion, you ban it and only increase risky methods of abortion, therefore endangering those getting them. Even so, when its legal the stigma is there. Those undergoing abortion have to watch videos of babies to change their mind, a bit of manipulation, isn’t that nice.
Those who see nothing wrong, imagine if you weren’t allowed to carry a pregnancy to term all of a sudden.
Imagine. You are a very maternal woman, and for so long you have wanted a second child. You are an excellent mother already to one child, and now is the right time for another child. Eventually, after some perseverance you become pregnant. You are overjoyed, and begin to plan a wicked baby shower. You even name your soon to be baby becoming SUPER attached and siked for it.
But, a new law comes in. Due to overpopulation, all second pregnancies from x date and beyond are to be terminated, which affects yours. This is a permanent ban on second pregnancies. And failure to terminate willingly means being locked up in jail for life, shunned and booed by a hefty proportion of society.
Some random people, whom has never met you, or likely any woman in their entire life, have decided FOR you that no, you can’t have this. Takes away YOUR choice, your right to choose whether you want to birth a child or not. Takes away what you wanted in life as you know it. So what would you do to get your right to choose back?
Even if our hypothetical woman were in a place with choice, if it were treated like abortions, she would be forced to watch videos displaying the effect of overpopulation, before even being allowed to continue with pregnancy. Like how those aborting have to watch baby videos to try to change their mind.
The inability to choose is why desperate people affected by abortion bans crash their cars. In this hypothetical scenario I made up who knows what this woman would do to keep her pregnancy. Obtain fake IDs from the black market for her soon to be baby or her family to escape the country? Have a home birth and keep away from all doctor intervention, which could save her life, plant the child in a bush to retrieve later? Who can blame her. Whatever she would do, it would be tragic, depressing and oppressive, just like what people do to try to get around abortion bans.
Apologies if the comparison is crude but its honestly the only way I think you can get through to people with more extreme views. Your body, your choice! None ever said ‘your body their choice’ that is considered inhumane in almost all contexts, pregnancy and abortion is one of them and should be regarded as such by everyone.