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  1. My husband says I am very intimidating when I am like that! In my early childhood that was pretty much all I heard around me. Most ex-pat kids (and military brats) don't end up with accents, so that's what you end up picking up RP from teachers etc.
  2. Yep, that's what I mean. I have 5 friends who live in Bristol who I see a few times a year. Two of them have lived in Bristol all their lives so have the full Bristolian thing going on. Another is Welsh, one is a military brat so is pretty much RP and the last one is a Sarf Landon ex-pat. When we all go out my own accent changes depending on whom I am addressing, which sounds very strange to the casual observer. One of my brothers ended up staying in Middlesbrough but married a girl from Ireland. He has a mixed up accent now of RP from our childhood, soft Geordie from living in Middlesbrough for twenty-five years, a slight Yorkshire hint from our dad and grandmother and Irish from his wife of fifteen years. My youngest brother, who spent the least amount of time abroad and in Middlesbrough of all us, has a very broad Yorkshire accent now. My husband always laughs at me though if I am arguing with someone. Apparently I go straight into upper class RP mode and become Penelope Keith of To the Manor Born!
  3. Chortle! I cannot understand how anyone could confuse Scottish and Irish accents. @ Hibini 'ello mate' isn't 'really' British. It's a regional thing, mostly east London cockney though is seen in other areas as slang. The stereotypical British is Received Pronunciation; think Steven Fry. My own accent varies from RP (brought up abroad so was an ex pat), to Middlesbrough (soft Tyneside Geordie - where we came back to and where 2 of my brothers stayed so they have adopted that accent), to 'posh' Yorkshire (my dad before he died) and broad Tyke with my friends and workmates. I'm a bit of mimic though. When I'm in the company of people with different accents, I automatically mimic them.
  4. Eurostar looked bad. People queuing for 5 hours or more and still not going anywhere. I think I would have turned around rather than stand in a queue outside for 5 hours.
  5. Is it bad down your way Kestra? We've so far escaped the really heavy snow that we had before, though apparently the Pennines are due to be hit again in a few days. Mind you I don't mind, finished work until the new year, have plenty of food in and we're holed up until after Christmas I am getting rather silly at the prospect of a white Christmas again.
  6. Its up to -1 today and it feels warm compared to what we've been having. Any other time -1 would feel cold, but today it doesn't.
  7. OK, I'm female and that has just made ME go pale. Dare I ask, how did you get hit in the nuts with a bowling ball?
  8. We've got about 2 foot of snow up here on the Pennines Kestra Though I do completely agree with you, we just don't know how to deal with snow and aren't prepared.
  9. It didn't stop all night. We've had around 18 inches here since yesterday and it is still snowing. The car is going nowhere I can assure you. My other half is supposed to be going down to London today; he woke at 6.30am, looked out of the window, said 'sod it' and got back in bed. All the trains are cancelled anyway. We're right at the top of the hill in our village and the roads are treacherous. The bus routes have been ploughed but it's just kept snowing. I saw the lights from the snow ploughs at about 4am but the roads are already covered with about another 6 inches since then, on top of compacted ice. Wonder if the 25 tons of rock salt that the council depo has will last - bet they are not so confident now.
  10. We've had 12 inches of snow today, on top of what we had yesterday and it is still snowing like mad out there. More forecast up to the weekend and possibly beyond that. Kids were both off today and probably tomorrow. I'm not attempting to drive although I am able to work from home - which is what I have been trying to do, although an overexcited 9 year old who can't walk THAT well on normal ground, let alone snow and ice but still wants to go make a snowman has been pestering me to go outside with her.... She wants me to put ski's on her walker! Not quite sure how that will work out...
  11. Freddy, I do walk on it, I have walked on it. We've had snow for the last week up here. My point was you posted that England had officially had it first snow as you had had it in the south today. Well England doesn't end at the Watford Gap; England has a north and in the north we've had snow, lots of it, and sheet ice for the past week. Read my post properly next time. @ Ripan I remember reading something a while ago, possibly in the last cold snap over here, about how in Siberia the schools don't close but, when it reaches -30, the kids do PE indoors... We don't know how lucky we are in the UK.
  12. Yep, couldn't agree more. Though, you try buying snowchains for your car over here. I tried earlier in the year when the snow was bad in January. Wouldn't be surprised if stores have started to stock them now though, after the January freeze. The part of the UK I live, we are more used to dealing with snow than say someone in Brighton but we still make a hardship of it. I hate driving in snow, but then we're not taught how to. We don't regularly have stores selling snow chains (that's probably changing), or snow tires. We don't, as a rule, dress for snow - although I do, I hate the cold - people don't wear snow boots, thick coats etc. We never seem to have enough rock salt to go around. I had to laugh last night, on Look North (local news) they were at a rock salt depo and the manager was saying that they had plenty compared to last year when they ran out in January. Well last year they had 20 tons and ran out in January well now they have 25 tons and it's only November - hmm not feeling very optimistic here @ freddyness England officially had it's first bout of snow a week ago Freddy Ah you southern softies
  13. It gets pretty bleak up here when we get it bad. Though that said we haven't been getting it bad for years. We got snowed in in Dec/Jan last/this year - lasted for weeks. It started snowing about 6 days ago and it is still snowing now with lots more forecast. I guess we aren't used to it any more even though where I am we do tend to get it quite bad compared to some areas of the UK. The Pennines is basically a mountain range here. This will give you an idea of what it's like where I am Pennines.
  14. So yeah, we're in the middle of an unseasonably cold snap here in the UK. I'm in the north of England and we've been dumped upon by tons and tons of the white stuff. And it's snowing again, with more forecast for the next 36 hours. Didn't make it into work today, it was supposed to be my first day back as I was off all last week with tonsillitis. But after I dug out the car, the roads were too dangerous - we're high up in the Pennines. My daughter's school was open and miraculously my son's was too - he attends the autism class in a school about 7 miles away of which the only way there is along 5 miles of rural country lanes which typically were not gritted or snowploughed. However his minibus got there, half an hour late but it got there. I think both schools will be closed tomorrow (deep joy...). Thursday the forecast is for -11 which is unheard of for this time of year. Anyone else shivering away?
  15. That sucks. Burns: Yeah, I'm OK now. I don't have quite the range of movement in my left hand as I did previously, but it is up to around 90% which is good enough. My scars are OK and fading. The artificial skin was fabulous stuff. Apparently I had £5000 worth of the stuff on my arm! This was on the deepest part and was only around 8 inches square in total. That part was the worst of the burns but has healed the smoothest. The worst part about it now is having to constantly keep it out of sunlight due to the risk of skin cancer. Means I can't wear short sleeves in the summer, or if I do, I have to cover the scars up with a tubeligrip bandage. At least I am not growing and don't have to have further skin grafts. That must really suck for your granddaughter.
  16. Tipping a pan of hot oil all over my left arm and right wrist. Not recommended. It was about 18 months ago and I was taking a pan of hot oil out of the oven - making Yorkshire puddings - the oil spit and splashed on my right wrist. I jumped and dropped the pan, in the process spilling the contents all over my left arm and hand. I had a sweatshirt on and I did the worse thing that anyone can do, the one thing that I KNEW you should never do to a burn, I pulled off my sweatshirt. And the top few layers of skin. I had deep partial thickness burns from my elbow to my fingers on my left arm and superficial partial thickness burns on my right wrist. I spent 3 days in hospital in the burns unit, then I had to visit the burn clinic every other day for dressing changes for 5 weeks. I had two surgical debridements, artificial skin (awesome stuff) and one hell of an infection by week 2. After it had healed I had to wear pressure dressings for three months to stop the scars building up, then I had to have physio to regain the movement and reduce skin tightness on my left hand. I never, ever, want to go through that again.
  17. I was in a situation last week where I had to deal with racist views. Not sure if I handled it well - however I had to maintain professionalism. I have a new case at work - a boy with behavioural difficulties. It was my first session with the family and I was speaking with the mother trying to get a history. I don't want to appear to be a snob but the mother came across as very much a 'chav'. It was difficult getting the history as the mother kept going off on rants about various things. One of the rants she had was over Disability Living Allowance. DLA is a welfare benefit in the UK for disabled people. It is VERY hard to get; you have to fill in a 50 page form which looks into every part of your life, you have to provide a lot of medical and paramedical evidence (I am sometimes called by the Benefits Agency to provide reports for DLA claims) and more often than not you have to have a medical before you are awarded the benefit. The mother it turned out had tried to claim DLA for her child a few years previously. She had been turned down as the child didn't have an official diagnosis at that point. She told me she telephoned the Benefits Agency and asked why to be told that there was insufficient evidence to award the benefit to her son. She said she then asked 'If I were black or f ing Paki I'd get it though, wouldn't I'? I tried to ignore that comment even though I was steaming inside and just stated that all I knew was that the Benefits Agency had very stringent conditions for awarding DLA and multiple sources of evidence must be provided. Then I tried to steer the conversation back onto the matter in hand. What I actually wanted to do was to rip her a new one and tell her that DLA is not and should never be a reward for cr@ppy parenting resulting in the child from hell.
  18. Autism is NOT a mental disease. It is a developmental disorder. Sorry Qwackie, but that is a pet hate of mine.
  19. *puts psychologist hat on* Yes. And yes. There is debate whether NVLD is actually Aspergers + Dyspraxia. *takes off psychologist hat*
  20. Boys are always more extreme in their behaviour, ASD or not. You ask any teacher who are the trouble causers in the class - he/she will point out half a dozen boys and maybe one girl. Out of the kids on my case load with behavioural problems, 90% at least, will be boys.
  21. Aspergers IS on the autistic spectrum. The autistic spectrum is a developmental DELAY. If the kid were acting his age, then I would question on whether an ASD were causing the problems rather than something else. Children with ASD's tend to 'act' between 1/3 and 2/3 of their chronological age. @ Kayota If you are saying a 13 year old with aspergers is acting around 7 years of age, then that is pretty much expected.
  22. Hard to say, you might just be lacking boundaries. If it were organic in nature, then it would be more likely to be ADHD.
  23. Yep, we don't make things easy on ourselves Funny that, everyone says I am old fashioned, I probably am. I have very old fashioned values - though for me the old fashioned values make sense and are pretty logical. Makes life easier I suppose.
  24. *passes mug of coffee* I think when we do pick up upon societal conditioning, we tend to see it as a very black and white thing too. But I guess that could be to do with the whole we don't see the shades of grey thing in between. Of the people on the spectrum I have met over the years there is a very high proportion of them (when compared to the NT population) who are at the very least bisexual. Some of those that are firmly heterosexual often have homophobic views which have been instilled in them by those around them.
  25. I wouldn't be surprised, I'll have a look through the journals next week and see if I can find anything. There is research that suggests a link with homosexuality in AS females. The whole male brained think makes sense really with that. However I suppose what puts a spanner into the works on the male brain hypothesis is that the rates of homosexuality are replicated in AS males too. If you are going with the extreme male brain hypothesis, surely homosexuality in AS males would be lower. So I think that it isn't that simple and something is else apart from the male brain theory is at work.