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  1. Actually, I was genuinely wondering where it was in the Bible that said death penalty was acceptable.

    I think it's in the part which mentions stoning your rebellious children...


    /low blow


    Really, I think the death penalty should be abolished everywhere. I find it hard to accept that here we are in 2011 and we still have countries where the state sanctions the killing of people.

  2. Wow, I'd forgotten about this thread. I made it almost a year ago when us Brits were in our cold snap. This time last year where I live we had 3 feet of snow and it was -20. So far it hasn't snowed and today it's been just above freezing - still felt cold though.


    I wonder if we're all going to be fooled this year. Will it be as bad as the last 2 years.

  3. This may be a stupid question but can ADD be genetically linked? My father was actually tested as an adult and found out he had it.

    Oh yes.


    There are several candidate genes, although there is no conclusive evidence as yet. But nonetheless there is a familial aspect to it. The heritability factor is about 25% officially. Personally I would say it is much, much higher than that.

  4. I think it's 54. I've just heard bad stuff about Ritilan, I've never done research on the medicines for ADD. Oh, and I'm absolutely high energy, just not willing to run about.

    54mg is the highest dose pill available of Concerta XR (which I presume is the one you are on). There is one teen on my books who is on 72mg (1x54mg 1x18mg). My son has the 54mg in the morning then 10mg of Equasym (generic Ritalin) as a mid afternoon booster.

  5. I was diagnosed early on in my development. Psychiatric examinations are all I remember because the man who did them was bald and had a snake skin in his office.


    But, I've heard a lot about Ritilan being a poor drug. I, personally, take Concerta. Superbly high dosage though. I think it's the highest they make, but I don't know much about drugs. It really makes a difference for me though, so it's good.

    Ritalin is Methylphenidate. Concerta is just another brand of it, Concerta XR is the slow release version.


    What dosage are you on?

  6. Speaking of which, Sola, how do you set a diagnose for

    1) someone of the inattentive type, without the hyperactive component?

    2) an adult?

    Well over here in the UK it is quite hard to get an adult dx of ADHD. There are only a few places that can give one. It is done by an adult psychiatrist with experience in ADHD and there aren't many adult ADHD clinics. Most kids who age out of child and adolescent mental health end up seeing a 'general' psych in adult services. If they are lucky they will transfer to an adult ADHD clinic.


    As for the process, several sessions are spent with the adult psych. Like with Aspergers, you need someone with you who could give a reliable description of you as a child. You would probably also see a psychologist. The process isn't as intense as the one for a child, but for a child you have to rule out various other factors which could affect behaviour like developmental disorders, hearing loss, sight problems etc. These generally would have already been picked up upon in an adult so you don't have to see such a wide range of specialists. There is also a Rating Scale similar to the one used in children.


    For the inattentive type, that is actually taken care of in the Rating Scales. Most adults with ADHD lose the H part as they get through adolescence. Sometimes there is some residual hyperactivity which can take the form of pacing, twitching, foot tapping etc. But the extreme hyperactivity which you see in children is not the norm in adult ADHD. Sadly my son is one of the small percentage of adults (he is 16 now) who has kept the hyperactivity. Usually by the age of around 14 it has started to wane. His is as strong as ever.

  7. Oh gods.


    I believe that this disorder exists. But what I hate (speaking from a teacher's perspective) is how it has become a label. Far, far too quickly is almost any unruly child 'diagnosed' as having this when in actuality they are rude and misbehaving. And the sheer number of students who will claim they have ADD without any actual diagnosis as an excuse...


    It goes in the list of things such as dyslexia and dyscalcula; show me a psychiatric evaluation saying you have it, I will believe you. If you are self-diagnosed, I will take it with a large pinch of salt.

    ^ This, this and this.


    I'm a professional who assesses for ADHD amongst other things. I also have a child with severe ADHD.


    You would not believe the amount of parents I see who swear their little cherub has ADHD, yet they show no parental boundaries, their child sits in front of a TV/screen all day, they feed their child crap and they don't enforce bedtimes.


    If you do all that your child may well present as ADHD to the casual observer but that does not mean that your child has ADHD.


    A child with ADHD will eat the healthiest diet out there and still be hyperactive.

    A child with ADHD will have parents that have firm boundaries and consequences for breaking those boundaries and the child still still be hyperactive.

    A child with ADHD will be able to do a 4 mile run and still have enough energy left at the end of it to do another 4 mile run.


    AD(H)D exists, of that there is not doubt. But it sadly has become a catch all for crappy parenting. The real ADHD kids suffer as a result.




    How do people get diagnosed? I wouldn't even know where to start.


    A proper diagnosis should be done in conjunction with a multidisciplinary team which contains a child psychiatrist, a psychologist, and educational psychologist, a speech and language therapist, and an occupational therapist. The child should have reports done from all the above plus a general health/development check done by a paediatrician, a report done by the teachers, a Connors Rating Scale done by someone like ME (!), observations of the child in a variety of settings, interviews with the parents and sight and hearing checks done by ophthalmologists and audiologists. Then and only then should the team get together and discuss their findings. That is when a diagnosis takes place.


    It should not be done by parents, teachers, counsellors, or even a single professional on their own.


    Edited to add: If you think moving people around so that they're not all congregated in one area is a good idea may I suggest telling your government they should open their borders up a bit more. I'm a self-supporting adult with relatives in the US, but I can't get a green card because the relatives are not my parents and I'm from England.




    Myself and my husband have recently been looking into Canada. We have both spoken about moving to the USA and buying some land. This has been a pipe dream of ours but over the last couple of months we've started to consider it seriously. However the green card situation is impossible. We then looked into Canada - another country we would really love to live. Despite me being in a profession which is on the 'fast track' it would still take several years before we were allowed to enter Canada on anything other than a tourist visa. About the only way we would ever be allowed in either country in the near future is to have some major investment money available, with for Canada in particular is around $250,000 (Canadian).


    It's not that we don't love the UK, we do. However the UK is very overcrowded, land prices are horrendous and house prices are worse.


    North America might not be overcrowded, but that is not the situation for the rest of the world.

  9. Over population is an overly propagated myth. Claiming overpopulation is in no way a defense for abortion.

    The world IS overpopulated in terms of enough resources to go around. Space is not so much a premium, there are countries such as the USA and Canada which have vast swathes of unpopulated land. However the resources which we use to live; fuel, food, water, are the ones which are threatened. Whilst we can, quite easily, fit another 3 or 4 billion people on this planet, we cannot provide fuel, food and water for them all. Heck, we can't even do that for the 7 billion we already have.

  10. Organic food is more than processed food, at least in my area...I don't know. But it's easier for someone to grab a burger when they're busy and can't get home to cook, and healthy snacks aren't people's first choice.


    It's personal responsibility & our resources.






    Imho BMI is a decent guideline, if you feel healthy but your BMI isn't on target, whatever. My brain just might work differently from everyone elses...

    I'm not talking about organic food. Just regular fresh meats and veg. Organic food is expensive but just cooking with regular non organic fresh veg and meats will be cheaper and far healthier than a fast food burger and fries.


    @ skinst

    I don't understand how people can say that fast food is cheap. Here at least in Australia, it's anything but.


    I agree. We don't have fast food much, it is usually reserved for treats such as on the kids birthdays. Last time we went as a family to Burger King was on my son's birthday, BK was his choice. For the four of us the cost was around £20, that isn't cheap by a long shot. I could buy food to last a few days, all meals, for £20.

  11. To know how to address it, we need to look at the cause, however there's multiple causes for the crisis. One of which is the increasing automation of the work force and daily activities: the less we need to move around, yet eat the same if not even more, the more pounds we pack on. Laziness adds to this: people driving their cars only one block to the store when they are perfectly capable of walking said distance is an example of this. I do conceed the fact that in some cases it is just not safe to walk (we used to walk to the store to get some things, but the combination of neighborhood going bad and said store moving further away stopped that).


    Food portions in resturants and the like is an issue too: they have inflated greatly over the years. No, that 12oz steak is not a 'normal' serving size for one meal: more like that's your meat quota for the whole day at least (and sadly the smallest steak I have seen offered in a resturant is 6oz, which is still about twice the normal serving). That's just one example here.


    Another is lack of personal accountability. Recently there was story about a stock broker suing White Castle for 'descrimination against fat people' because he could not fit in their sitting. This man ate at White Castle every day, but instead of cutting back on his fast food intake and/or exercising (take responsibility for his own actions), he choose to sue instead. Another example was the guy that tried to sue McDonalds for 'making him fat'. :\


    Then there's the possibility that the drugs we take and may be in our food and such could be screwing with our metabolic rate. That one is speculation though on my part, based on what a friend of mine claims (he was fit and thin as a kid before he was forced to take meds for some problem and ever since he has not been able to keep the weight off).


    As for solutions...I don't know. The thing is we seem to be very comfortable with the status quo, esspecially with the blaming someone else for a problem an individual is (at least partly) responsible for himself.

    I do think there is an issue of us as a species being less active. Driving - I don't think it is solely an issue of it not being safe to walk, although that is part. I think part of is that 50 years ago most families didn't have cars because they couldn't afford one. Now most families have at least one car. It has become natural, a right of passage even, to pass your driving test as soon as possible and get a car. I can see that changing, at least here in the UK anyway, as petrol is unbelievably expensive here.


    With eating healthier, people used to shop more frequently due to not have cool storage facilities at home. Now everybody has a fridge and freezer and people no longer need to buy fresh every couple of days. Meals are a matter of convenience for many now.


    I completely agree with you over food portions. It isn't quite so bad here in the UK but my husband travels to the USA at least twice a year for work and has done for the last 7 years. He always comes home having gained weight and he always states the portion sizes in the USA are huge compared to the UK - I've seen the photo's he has taken when out at restaurants. I'd hazard a guess too that a 12oz steak isn't a normal quota for a day either. More like at least 2 days.


    We are less active. How many jobs now involve sitting in front of a computer screen. The same with leisure time too. How many of us have spent hours online or playing console games. I'm showing my age now but there was nothing like this when I was a child. We played out, in all weathers. We were far more active.


    I do think that the problems we have now, particularly with the younger generation are so ingrained in that solving them is going to take some radical action.


    @ Lila

    For some reason, healthy food is more expensive than potato chips and soda. That's why lower class citizens tend to be unhealthy as well.


    That is a fallacy actually. At least it is in the UK anyway. It is far cheaper to cook from scratch using fresh veggies and cheap cuts of meat. The meal will be far healthier than any convenience food. Unfortunately basic cooking skills are not seen as a priority to taught in schools now. When I was at school we did home economics (again showing my age sigh...) and we were taught to cook. I still to this day cook some of the dishes that I was taught at school. I was also fortunate in that my grandmother was an awesome cook and she passed her skills on to me (which is bizarre because my mother is an awful cook!). But people do that now? I don't think they do so much and what we have now is a generation who have no idea how cook good healthy meals. It is also easier to bung something in the microwave or go to McDonalds.


    As for myself, I have always been at the upper end of normal weight/edging into slightly overweight. However I am active, train at the dojo three times a week, run twice a week and do circuit training. I have a lot of muscle so that has always pushed me over in the borderline overweight. I am very fit though. However since my surgery my training ground to a halt as a necessity and I'm just building back up now. I'm training at the dojo, not sparring though and running twice a week having just build up from walking. I'm not up for the circuit training yet as I'm not cleared by my doctor for push ups, sit ups and the like. Despite this I haven't lost a single pound and it's getting very frustrating.

  12. Hope this isn't a dupe, sorry if it is.


    I was reading something today that said that within 20 years 75% of the USA and 70% of the UK population will be obese.


    What's the answer? How do we counteract this?


    Please keep this friendly, no fat jokes.


    And before anyone asks, I am having issues losing weight myself. I had major surgery 6 months ago and have only recently been cleared to start training again (I do martial arts). I've gained 2.5 stones since my surgery which I really need to lose but so far despite training again it isn't shifting.

  13. Kainotophobia is the fear of change. Do you experience this or do you know someone who struggles with this sort of phobia? Discuss.

    I'm pretty sure there is a phobia thread somewhere...


    But anyway, welcome to my life. I am autistic so yeah I am kainotophobic to an extent.

  14. Kamak, I am a 36 year old American, born and raised in Southern California. Growing up, I have seen many, many people imitate those with cerebral palsy and equate the action with stupidity or mental deficiency. I have heard them imitate the voices of people with severe movement disorders to the same effect. They called it 'spazzing'. Nowadays, when I see people say they are 'spazzing out', they sometimes act up and flap their arms as if they can't control their body movements. Please do not tell me that in America, such things are non-existent. I know you were operating under mistaken information regarding my location, but that does not change the fact that you cannot speak for all of America when you say such things are non-existent. They are existent, in America.


    So 'spazzing' is associated with clumsiness? That could not possibly be because people with movement disorders are sometimes clumsy, could it? It's associated with 'over-excitedness'? That couldn't be because someone suffering from an episode of uncontrollable, painful body contortions appears to be moving quite a lot and is, quite literally, over-excited, could it?


    You, and many others, believe such attitudes are benign, for they do not know the word "spaz" (which has no medical usage at all) has unsavory roots, and perhaps they do not know what the movements they make mean. I believe in 50 years, society will be ashamed of these attitudes that allow such usages to be accepted, the way that society is ashamed of blackface now. Back then, wearing makeup to imitate other races was not seen nor intended to be in any way negative. And yet now, as a society, we are horrified by it and horrified we ever thought it was acceptable.


    I have no intention of shaming anyone. I wish to give people something to think about. If those thoughts provoke feelings, perhaps it's worth listening to why those feelings were provoked. You'll not see me attack every instance of someone saying they 'spazzed out', nor even being personally offended by them. That would be a pointless crusade and an exercise in futility. Which is why I want the attitudes to evolve, knowing the words will follow. Your way, diluting the words without addressing the attitudes, affects ultimately only the sounds being made and strikes me as the same reason that such a long string of descriptors for other races are no longer acceptable--the attitudes behind the words never changed.


    You say a word can only gain it's damaging affect by the intent of the user. You are partially right--the attitude of the user also has an effect on the word. If the user of a word holds such a casual disregard for the disabled and mentally ill that they are not even aware they hold it, it colors the words they use. That's why words like lame and crazy and spaz can get negative connotations about able-bodied and non-ill people in the first place. It happened because society gave not even one <censored> about what those things mean to the people who suffer from them. After all, to people who don't suffer with a movement disorder, 'spaz' is just another word, it's not a reality that puts them in wheelchairs and causes them pain. 'Lame' is just a word, it's not a reality. 'Crazy' is just a word, it's not a reality. So therefore it's OK for those who don't suffer from the reality behind those words, it's just sounds, they don't mean anything by them. Right?


    ETA-ETA: To follow up on what arula said, my movement disorder is acquired and while it doesn't involve spactisity, to the untrained eye it looks very, very similar. What I do involuntarily looks like the 'spazzing' people sometimes do when they say the word. Those subconscious meanings and associations that follow the imitated movements and 'spaz' around that arula mentioned, the ones that people aren't intending badly? Guess what--they affect me in everyday life. People think I am stupid because my arm curls up against my chest. They talk down to me, treat me as if even if I had two neurons to rub together, I wouldn't know how to do it. It's the movement I grew up associating with the word 'spaz' (recall, I'm an adult American, so I am not the only one in America who grew up with these associations) that are affecting me, and the word still carries with it all of that meaning.



    Princess Artemis, mostly what I was talking about was the point a few years ago (I guess around 2002-2005...?) at which there was overwhelming evidence that SOMETHING was happening to the global climate, and there were still people insisting that nothing was happening at all and everything was the same as it had been for the past 500 years. I don't mean the people arguing that there was change but that it was natural and not anthropogenic, or the people arguing that there was change but it wasn't going to be catastrophic; I mean the people arguing that nothing was changing at all. They do seem to mostly have piped down by now. I guess whether we should or even can do something about it is still an open question.


    And you're right, it's an area in which science and politics have become messily embroiled, which makes it a lot harder to find unbiased information.


    There were people who argued that way? All they had to do was look back to the extra-cold years and extra-warm years in the recent past to know that things wiggle around a bit. I guess I have trouble believing large numbers of people in that recent of history ever thought climates don't change! There was even a global cooling scare in the '70s. Maybe they were remembering that and thinking, "Not again..."

    ^ This.




    I get that 'spaz' has become to mean someone making excited movements and someone doing something clumsy. But why do you think that is?


    In the same way that people call someone who does something 'stupid' as a re-tard - why do you think that is?


    Because of the origins of the words. You don't use re-tard, please don't use spaz either.


    Just because the origin isn't as well known in the younger generation (and that goes for both sides of the pond), that doesn't mean that the origin wasn't associated with a disability.

  15. Hey... I don't have Asperger's but I do have NLD.... anyone have any good pointers for lsomeon with an Aspie like brain learning to drive the car... which is proving to be something of a headache.






    Can anyone explain what this quiz chart means? I am a little puzzled by it to be honest.

    Learn in an automatic! Honestly, if not for automatic gearboxes, I would not be driving. Way too much to think about.


    I've never actually seen that quiz before, I can only assume it involves highlighting various aspects of the psyche.

  16. Well, that was what my mam told me, anyway. Evidently Ive just spent a while being misinformed... >.<

    That might be the case in your area. Or it might be that you have to really push for a diagnosis of dyspraxia. All too often it is the ones who shout loudest who get the attention. As awful as that is all services are incredibly stretched and it is only going to get worse.

  17. "Everybody grows old, but growing up is optional"

    And on that both positive and appropriate note, I want to introduce myself to the thread smile.gif




    I'm 16 now, (only just) and I got my diagnosis when I was.... Somewhere between 8 and 10, I think. I'm one of the only people in.... At least my county, but I think it's the whole of Britain, who received a diagnosis for ASD AND Dispraxia. Not long after that, the rules were changed so you could only get one. It isn't very bad or prominent though, so I tend to forget about it a lot.


    Anyway, i took the little quiz thing and got this:


    Your Aspie score: 70 of 200

    Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 137 of 200

    You are very likely neurotypical


    I am not sure that the quiz is very reliable.


    For anyone interested, the questions I identified with the most were:


    Obscure Facial expressions (i think this is a positive trait)

    Fashion (don't get me started on my fashion rant...)

    Annoyed when people Walk behind me

    Long lasting revenge (just the other day, I was plotting revenge on a teacher who was particularly non-understanding about something to do with my brother -who has a diagnosis for mergers- when I realised that actually, that was over six years ago...)

    Annoyance when somebody interrupts an activity particulArly important to you

    Dislike of Team sports (they need to go die in a bush, please ^.^)


    Anyway, that's me smile.gif

    *Coughs* Educational Psychologist here in the UK speaking.


    I can assure you that dual Aspergers and Dyspraxia diagnosis do still happen in the UK. I am part of the multidisciplinary team which assesses the under 18's for such conditions.


    It might be the case that in your particular local authority/health authority, they don't give a dsypraxia dx unless there is no other co-morbid condition, but that is not the case for the entire UK.


    Some areas, and mine is one which is currently considering going down this route, are not giving separate Aspergers and Autism dx's. Instead they are giving a general ASD dx. This is because typically an Aspergers dx gets little or no help unless there is co-morbid mental health issues or behavioural issues and then only when parents shout loud enough. Autism typically gets what little help there is.

  18. Oh that's good to hear. You know they're feeling better when they start hunting again smile.gif Is he likely to have a relapse?

    Possibly. Asthma is pretty unpredictable. That's if it is asthma - the chest X-ray on Monday is to check for a tumour.

  19. My mother-in-law's siamese Daisy does that. They actualy now have a box at the end of the driveway for the things she's nicked so people can reclaim their stuff. I believe she actualy managed to bring a paint roller home one night, though mostly it seems to be socks and small stuffed toys that she steals.


    I'm almost thankful that Haplo only brings home small furry creatures. Almost. Would be better if they weren't alive quite so often, though.

    Well Jack is feeling a little better from his steroid injection. This morning he appeared on the doorstep, after being outside for about 20 minutes, with a sparrow in his mouth.

  20. Unlikely. It's just different personalities. My cat is male, and he would take a hairband for a toy over a laser pointer any day.

    Oh this^


    We have two male cats and never, ever a single hair bobble, hair band, or any other type of hair clip, in the house ever. Loads and loads in the garden and on the patio!


    Both cats steal them and take them outside!

  21. Sola, oh no! Hope your cat's okay. That stinks.

    Does anyone have any suggestion for a cat that likes to claw walls? The marks aren't visible but it's getting very annoying when Widget is walking on my desk and stretches out on the wall, clawing it while she is standing on her hind legs. It's cute but bad, and I want to stop it.



    He was in overnight again.


    Had him back yesterday and the vet gave him steroids. He is booked in for first thing Monday for a chest Xray - the vet is querying a tumour sad.gif


    If you cat is scratching, make sure they have a scratch post. Does your cat go outside? An indoor cat is more likely to scratch due to lack of stimulation. If so make sure your cat has plenty of play opportunities.


    @ Tiki, how is Haplo now?


    @ xxDragonisPrimusXX


    He will not come by me.

    He will not let me hold him for long.

    He sits at the foot of the bed or moves when I come by him.


    He like the cat treats I give him, but after that he resumes his high-and-mighty act.


    You do realise that all cats have Aspergers? biggrin.gif