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  1. *hums happily* Making mash to go ontop of shepards pie. Looking forward to dinner already!
  2. @PF13 - That, right there, seems to be what causes most of my other half's issues with food - having had a bad version and extrapolating from there. As I said, I got him over the Chinese thing by insisting he try what I was eating. He swallowed a fish bone once, too, and now can't stomach anything with bones (including really big bones, like Lamb Shanks or Chops). Aaaaand he had some badly cooked fat in something once, and tends to reject anything where the raw meat has a high fat content. Never mind that it renders if cooked properly Yeah, I actually have no more patience with my other half being picky about food than I do with random people on the internet. I'm battering down most of the pickiness with persistance.
  3. I suspect the resteraunt thing is more my being aspie than anything else - I suspect I apply the 'polite' rule I learnt a little too rigidly (especially as I know other members of my family will complain). But, yeah, I still don't accept that (for the vast majority of people) gagging and retching on food isn't something totally over the top, unnecesary, and learnt when young. @Cenoa - I was, mostly, wondering if he objected because it meant *he* had to watch them too, rather than making any observation on time watching or something like that. I know all kids watch at least some telly
  4. I have... issues with food mixing on my plate. I prefer to have everything neatly separated. It's why I never chose to put things like gravy on my food - not because I didn't like gravy, but because I hated the way it mixed everything into one. Note this never, ever stopped me from eating whatever I'd been given when I went out (however much it bothered me), because as I said before I'd had it too well drilled into me from a very young age that you didn't refuse something someone had cooked for you because it was impolite. It's not that I don't get some of it - I do - I just really don't think it's an excuses. What you do at home it one thing, you can choose there to eat what you like, but I'm afraid I just cannot accept people being like that when they go to dinner at someone elses house. It's rude.
  5. You seem to be entirely missing the point - which, put bluntly, is that you saying that to people is every bit as petty, useless and annoying as you claim other people's reactions to be. Seriously dude, leave off. Edit: And don't try lecturing me on what being an Aspie actually means. Just... don't.
  6. Well if he's not watching it on his own that may explain his Dad's reaction to the girly cartoons. It is possible to find the programmes your (or your relatives) kids like to watch incredibly tedious.
  7. Uh, fyi for a lot of people it's really isn't. Changes do happen during your teens, yes, but once patterns are set by your mid-20's they're very unlikely to change drastically. I have a form of High Functioning Autism, and I have massive issues with change. For me change has no part in my life wherever I can avoid it. So, no, telling me "Oh you'll probably change your mind" is both insulting, disturbing, and trying to force your normality onto me.
  8. FYI guys, the body actually can't digest the straches in raw potatoes. They've got to be broken down during the cooking process for the human body to be able to digest them. So eating potatoes raw has a) very little nutritional benefit and can cause stomach complaints.
  9. See my Mum used to say "Let's do a deal. If you eat all your vegetables then... [x thing I liked]". She says she really knew I was growing up when she got the response "I don't want to do a deal - it always ends up with me eating the vegetables.". That was the point at which the ones I really didn't like came off the menu permanently.
  10. This actually works very well for getting the palette used to things. We used be be given ONE sprout with a roast dinner - which we had to eat. As children we both hated them. Now, as an adult, I *love* sprouts. There is a difference between actually not liking the taste/texture of something and having psychologically convinced yourself that you *won't* like it (then either refusing to try, or sticking your tongue on it and gagging). It's perfectly acceptable to have things you don't like, I've just personally always drawn a line at refusing entire food groups because you "don't like them.". Incidently my other half was one of the worlds pickiest eaters when we first got together. He's much, much better now. Largely through a combination of my going "I am not having baked beans with every meal", and insisting that he try some of pretty much everything I was eating. So the man that didn't like red meat, didn't like Chinese, didn't like anything spicy... Now loves Venison, loves Chinese (with the exception of sweet & sour - turned out in the end that he'd decided he didn't like any chinese food because he hadn't liked the jars of sweet & sour with plain boiled rice. I mean, really.) and has a bit of a chilli obsession. He still doesn't do Indian, but I've traced that down to him not actually liking tumeric, which is fair enough. @fuzz - yeah, I think it's because ketchup isn't exactly the worst thing in the world for him that he's allowed as much of it as he is. And given that he does willingly eat veggies (and a large amount of other stuff) it's not the worlds most massive problem either. It's kinda cute that when we're having buffet-style food at family get togethers he goes around pinching carrot sticks and grapes off of people. But, yeah, kids in our family have always eaten what the grown-ups in our family were having, albeit in smaller portions. I think they're less likely to balk at eating something if they see you eating it too. My sister is weaning her little lad on processed versions of what she and her husband are eating.
  11. I was brought up with a handful of base rules on eating when I was growing up (as was my sister) and neither of us are anything even approaching picky. My sister is vegetarian, but that's not the same thing at all and wasn't something she moved to until her late teens. 1) You must at least *try* everything once. No, putting your tongue to it does not count. And no, putting it into your mouth for a couple of seconds before spitting it out doesn't count either. If you've eaten several mouthfulls and then say you really, really don't like it then that's OK. 2) Plates must be clean before you get any dessert. Which means if you really don't want to eat something that's your choice, but you won't be getting anything else. Dinner is what's been put infront of you, there will be no treats or snacking of any kind later if you haven't eaten it. Addendum to this - attempts were always made not to feed us things we had expressed that we really, really didn't like. There would *always* be vegetables, but if we really didn't like a specific one then we wouldn't be fed it (in my case - green beans. I still hate them). 3) If you go out to eat, you don't complain, you clear your plate, and you thank people afterwards. It's impolite not to eat something someone has gone to the trouble of cooking for you. So even if you *hate* it, you eat it. This was so well instilled into me that by the time I hit my teens I'd actually eat things I completely loathed (see the green beans mentioned above) because I felt it would have been impolite not to. I still to this day probably wouldn't send food back at a resteraunt because I couldn't be that impolite. Funnily my 3 year old nephew (who is actually a very good kid in most respects) will eat everything but only if he has tomato ketchup with it. It's very odd watching him dip sticks of celery into ketchup. He seems to have got that from his Dad, who also puts ketchup on pretty much everything.
  12. Going back to the food thing - the gag reflex *can* be a learned action. My other half, for example, cannot take tablets because he gags and throws up. Doesn't matter what kind of tablet, or what size, he'll gag on all of them. Even if you put them inside bits of food the way you would with a dog (and, yes, we did try that). Yet he swallows food (without tablets in it) without any kind of trouble. It's a learned reflex from early childhood, and he doesn't now appear to be able to unlearn it. Older children that are difficult with food have *already* begun learning avoidance reflexes from the moment they were allowed to get away with it. No just-weaned child gags on food, they learn how to do that to avoid eating stuff. The worse/stronger the reflex is, the more likely it is to be learnt, rather than a simple dislike. That's not to say people can't honestly dislike foods. They can. But those extreme gagging reflexes? Sorry, those *were* learn at an early stage because the kid found out that meant they didn't have to eat something.
  13. I can't help but wonder where the new system Steam have just announced will end up falling.
  14. It used to be a seperate and distinct diagnosis. At least it was when they diagnosed me. I think, as the two are pretty much identical anyway, the term is slowly being dropped. But, yeah, I'd always just explain 'High Functioning Autism' to people, as most of them haven't heard of Aspergers.
  15. This. My Mum used a smack as a punishment only as a '3rd strike' measure. She'd ask us not to do seomething, she'd tell us not to do something, then she'd warn us that if we continued doing that thing we would get a smack. Suffice it to say I can only remember being smacked a very few times. It is not child abuse to do so. In my view, it's proper Parenting. Clearly there are a load of other people on here whose experience of being given a smack is much the same as mine was.
  16. I think originaly the language delay was considered to be the defining difference between HFA and Aspergers - one had it, the other didn't. With Aspergers being folded into the wider Autism Spectrum Condition diagnosis in the DSM-V. *Shrugs* Not that it matters much, by the time you reach adult the difference between HFA and AS is all semantics anyway.
  17. Ditto, we've got it set to record. No spoilers, guys!
  18. Hmmm, yes. Saying that, lightbird, I know my family have tended to use a type of travel sickness tablet (damned if I can remember the name off the top of my head) that has a similar effect of putting you to sleep. I seem to recall my Mum saying that my Grandfather (who was a chemist) had recommended it.
  19. What a brilliant post, Husky. It's always really nice to hear things like that from people of an older generation (than mine - I'm just about to hit 30).
  20. It's certainly worth a try, I know it's made a big difference both to me and the other aspies I know that take it. That said do talk it through with your Doc first. Largely because of Seratonin issues and how it may interact with anything else you may be on (saying that I took it at the same time as taking Citalopram with no issues). Better safe than sorry. I know it's also used by people as a sleep aid, but I can't say that's something I've really noticed. I tend to take herbal Nytol, and I've got some sleeping tabs (can't surrently remember what they're called) for when things are getting desperate. I've also found I sleep better in a totally dark room - blackout curtains are one of the best investments we've ever made.
  21. As it happens your insurance wouldn't cover it, because it's sold as a dietry supplement both in the US and where I am in the UK, but it's also not all that expensive. I just checked Amazon, and a 60 tablet bottle at 50mg (the doseage I take - you can get much stronger) can be bought for around $10. And I take 1 a day with dinner (2 if life is likely to be very stressful, 1 with breakfast and the 2nd as normal). So, yeah, $10 for 3 months near enough. Not precisely cheap, but not bank-breaking either. And, yeah, I feel you on the lorazepam. I've got Diazepam for emergencies, and it has much the same effect on me. Plus I can't drive once I've taken it - so totally useless if I'm out working.
  22. I take 5-HTP for much the same reasons (that one was actually recommended to me in an aspie-only online forum). I'm just.... me. Unless I stop taking it, in which case I'm a nasty ball of stress. That hasn't stopped to odd panic attack or meltdown, you understand. If the situation is bad enough those will happen anyway. It's just significantly reduced them. Funnily it's also reduce the amount of times I lock into extremely literal thinking, which also seems to be a by-product of my being massively stressed.
  23. Incidently those actually *can* help with autism. A load of aspie issues can stem from anxiety - it's a large componant of meltdowns. So if you can handle the anxiety, then the major problems associated with it are less likely to happen.
  24. I've not heard that about Aspergers (no 'b', incidently) myself, although I *have* heard it about ADHD in the States. I'm aware there is a tendancy in the US to diagnose something so they can medicate, though. Anyone who is wondering can also go looking for the AQ (Autism Quotient) and EQ (Empathising Quotient) tests by Simon Baron-Cohen. He's a leading expert in the UK, and I know those tests are used as diagnostic tools over here (though, please note, they are not a diagnosis in themselves). Very much like the other test I posted these sorts of things can only highlight possible areas, a full diagnosis can only be made by a board of professionals, and does require statements from family members about your childhood. For all those doubtful of self diagnosis - there's a large amount of 'it depends' here. I know that for a lot of people who get their diagnosis as adults they have self diagnosed *first*, and then gone to the doctors. That's certainly how I did it - someone flat out asked if I had Aspergers (which I'd never heard of), so I went and did some reasearch. I was 99% sure I was aspie before I ever went to my GP, and going through the diagnostic process only confirmed that. I didn't suddenly go from 'non-Aspergers poser' to 'actual Aspie' because I'd self-diagnosed first. There's also a lot of self diagnosed adults out there who have no desire for a formal diagnosis (which may actualy give them more trouble than help), but can use the self diagnosis to help them form a framework to improve how they interact with people. Also, FYI for those wondering, 'aspie' is a term mostly used within the Autistic community, and by those that are familiar with us. It is categorically *not* a derivitive name that has come from NTs not familiar with the condition.
  25. That kind of behaviour is a result of a profit driven medical system, though. The Doctors make money for everyone that walks in the door, so they really *want* people to be walking in the door. In the UK, it costs money for everyone that walks in the door so they don't encourage hypochondria.